I am getting evicted and was going to go to a shelter with my kids. Now my children’s father is telling me that I’m not taking his kids to a shelter and that he would take them to his brothers house. Mind you it’s already packed there in a

Do what’s best for you and your kids! If need be, get the law involved. My opinion and advice .

He thinks that at the shelter people will try to fight me and fight over rooms if I’m not in line in time

It’s not time to play “responsible concerned dad”, he should’ve done that by getting a job and paying rent so you guys didn’t lose your home.. if you get to a shelter it will SUCK but you will ultimately get assistance and possibly on a wait list for low income housing or section 8.. don’t let him tell you what to do now. You’ll lose your voucher plus whatever else you would benefit from 😒. Sorry and best of luck! My sister was in a shelter for a year and now she has a 3 bedroom with rent assistance.

do u think it’s a good idea if I just went in the shelter without the kids and let him take them for now. Would I get the same benefits ?

No! Go with your kids! They give you an apt a lot faster! Don’t leave your kids in a place where they barely have space. Family shelters are more safe. I’m not sure if NJ has PATH shelters but I will suggest looking at that!

do u know if we will have our own room at the family shelter? And so u kno if the shelter would allow me to let the kids stay with the dad on weekends? I’m sure there’s rules

They’ll give you your own little apt in a shelter building. The building looks regular from the outside. Not like a shelter.

They help women with kids faster than women with no kids so I suggest you go with your kids

NYC you are likely to have your own room. They cannot stay with him on the weekends on a regular unless the courts mandate that as his visitation right. However, you can work around that with a caring worker who knows what to put down. Former Case Manager, Supervisor at WIN Shelter

I don’t think so. Single moms/parents with children have priority over a single women.

I’m in NJ. I would be in a NJ shelter

I believe most shelters are set up to be a dorm style where individual families have their own rooms but I’m not sure if you’re able to leave your things etc until you are placed long term. Also maybe once you have placement the caseworker can give the kids sleep out privileges. I’m sure they would still be able to see their father and you guys are able to come and go. But there are curfews, yes. And I don’t think you can have company unless there is a day room or something where visitors are allowed. Just try not to overthink it right now. It’s going to be an adjustment but you will have stability in the long run.

hi do you know any good shelters in nj I have a baby and my baby’s dad kicking me out and I have nowhere to go

and this is in Nj correct

it’s funny bcuz now he’s still trying to argue with me about going to the shelter like I’m unstable. Bro I’m there primary caregiver and literally do everything for them. U can either support me with this or not .

Since his brothers place is already tight quarters, how long does your bd really think they’re going to want to put up with 2 additional kids? Keep them with. Also, enforce they need to continue to go to school.

What are your reasons for leaving NYC? If you stay here you will have your own apartment style room since you have more than 2 kids.