Am I overreacting

if he makes not drinking for a few months a big deal, then it sounds to me like he may have a problem. you are not overreacting at all. he is putting drinking over the safety of his baby.

It's not an overreaction at all. especially if he's drinking to the point of drowsiness, slurred speech, coordination problems, etc.. if it's like one beer at dinner or even two or a glass of wine, etc .. whatevs, but deep intoxication, multiple drinks, or shots with a newborn/infant is just not the way. Plus, the entire next day, recovering from the alcohol can be so tough and make one irritated and snappy. I hope he (and the both of you) are able to find a balance and take a breather from substances.

I personally had one glass of wine (plus half a shot of jägger) last night visiting with my father and although I could feel the alcohol, I was definitely not to a point of danger to my children.. plus, it was after bedtime. I paired it with bottled water, 2 chicken thighs, and half a cup of rice lol so it just depends. If he can't drink a small/family appropriate amount and be satisfied, it's better to refrain entirely.

I'm adding on because this is about husbands. My husband had 2 glasses of wine, 2 shots, plus the other half of mine.. but he's a lot bigger and has a greater tolerance, and I don't feel like he was in a "bad" place even after all that..

We've been at a place where we've been dangerously drunk near or around our kids, and I just don't recommend it at all. It's hard to figure it all out, but I'm sure you guys will! Just give it some time and try to talk about it when he's not been drinking 🙃