Husband looking at other women, how would you feel?

Recently I noticed my husband has been more hooked to his phone and doesn’t want to have sex as much so I took his phone while he was sleeping and I found that he spends at least an hour on instagram looking at other females…
And it’s not just regular pictures it’s them fully naked or shaking their butts

I’m so conflicted if I should confront him or not because I feel like it would just make him more sneaky about it

But honestly I’m so hurt, not even about him looking at other females because I can’t stop him from looking but just my self esteem because of course like a lot of women my body has changed because of having a baby..

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I think you will find a lot of men looking at these kind of posts on any social media platform. I never had a problem with my partner looking as long as that’s all it was and there was no other action taken to talk to the girl for example or try to get himself out there making it look like he’s available to anyone. To me looking is harmless as long as he’s not pushing you out the way and making you feel more insecure or making you feel like you have to compete with the women he’s looking at. If that’s the case just have a conversation with him about it and just explain how you feel, sometimes they find it so natural to look that they don’t realise how it’s making the other person feel. Everyone feels different about these situations and every relationship has different boundaries, the best thing to do is talk to him and figure out what is best for your relationship x

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Gorlll my husband be doing the same thing idc as long as he don’t text or send any money idc. It doesn’t change the way he acts towards me or our sexual life so maybe he’s just guilty so it’s affecting you guys.

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That is disrespectful. I could not be with a guy that intentionally tries to look for this kind of content on social media. Communication is everything so if it bothers you bring it to his attention. Some women are ok with their spouse looking at other females shake their ass but it is also ok to not be ok with it! Keep your head up 🩷

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Yeah absolutely not. I’m sorry but i couldn’t be with a man who doesn’t have eyes for only me.

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My ex used to talk about women to my face and when we were out he would point out women who were pretty or prettier than me and tell me about all the women who hit on him that day. It like honestly sucks so try having an open conversation about it tbh just so he can at least hear u and how u feel

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Maybe ask him if he has any complaints about you and try to understand what could have driven his attention somewhere else.

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I would tell him you feel disrespected and hurt. I don’t think anyone in relationships should be going out of their way searching up half naked chicks and lusting over them. Obviously, we’re all human and find others attractive and staring in public briefly when alone is quite normal but I find staring at half naked chicks for an hour on Insta is absolutely disrespectful.

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Sometime guys go through phase were they don’t want to have sex due to stress and a lot being on their minds. It’s nothing against us we’re it can definitely make you feel insecure or low self-esteem. Unless he told you it was you it wouldn’t let it affect your self esteem. It’s natural in a relationship to go through dry patches. As long as communication and the relationship is healthy. As far as social media damn near all you can find is naked girls and ppl showing way to much ! As long as he ain’t in no DMs. I find it with the male algorithm since they like sports more of those things are more likely to show unfortunately. Cause it’s target audience.unless he was searching it deliberately! Then use that voice mama

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Set boundaries and let him know the things that you find uncomfortable!

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yeah no that’s straight disrespect

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