Friend disappointment

this was me last week

I am so sorry you’re feeling this and that happened
I’ll be honest I have friends that only live an
hour to a couple hours away that didn’t come to mine and I honestly didn’t expect them too because people don’t hold weight to baby showers like they do weddings or bachelorette parties- not really sure why, but they just don’t.
I really don’t think it’s something to end the friendship over. Give yourself a couple of days to really process so you make sure you are thinking clearly and not hormonally (it’s hard to not let our intense hormones take lead rn)
And then you should communicate that to them. Not in a blaming way, but it a “hey as your friend I just wanted to communicate with you this thing I’m feeling and how it hurt me”
I think if they aren’t there for you once you communicate this to them and if they kinda just shut you out in general after it’s worth ending over- but communication is just so important in any and every relationship

I understand how u feel my friend of 10+ years didn't even bother to show up to mine snd she lives down the road..

Times are financially rough for a lot of people. Even if they love and care about you- it’s not in everyone’s budget to be able to fly out of state for a baby shower. My best friend wasn’t able to come to mine and she’s out of state. I understood cause at the end of the day they have to take care of their responsibilities first. I understand the hurt. And wanting them to be there. But also understand it’s a much bigger ask when it’s not convenient distance and financially. You might be able to make that trip for a baby shower. But a lot of people can’t

I completely understand the hurt and disappointment for this. Your feelings are always valid regardless of our raging pregnant hormones.
I will say, not many of my friends have kids yet and I truly don’t believe many people understand how much it means to celebrate your babes. Especially your first.
I would try to give them the benefit of the doubt, speak to them once you’ve had a chance to calm and think, and then vow to be that friend you wish they’d been when their baby time comes around.
I wish I had been SO MUCH MORE supportive and present for my sisters and friends who had kids before me. I just didn’t understand until I had my own.
I’m sorry you’re struggling. All the best!

I’m so sorry and understand exactly how you felt.
My shower was Sunday and two of my friends canceled on me, after asking me for so long about my whole pregnancy and promised they’ll be there I sent over the invitation with a msg saying “Hope to see you there!” and both of them liked the msg and did not respond.

Watched my IG story the entire day did not get me anything and didn’t even apologize for not making it.

Some people are weird and will talk up with you in the beginning to be nosey but honestly aren’t happy for you.

These are friends I went above and beyond for during their pregnancies.

I'm so sorry to read this. I love how supportive people are in the comments, BUT I think they fail to realize that these "friends" decided to contact you the day before. A real friend would be upfront right away, or way sooner than a day before at least regardless of their circumstances. Maybe some of them are still trustworthy despite this happening, but I had a similar situation happen to me.

I don't have many friends myself, so I was picky and choosey on who to invite on my behalf. We also had a cap on who we could invite. I was iffy about inviting one "friend" to begin with, but decided to invite her and her sister since they seem to come to events frequently of our mutual friend. But she texted me 9PM the night before that she couldn't make it anymore because she was needed at work at midnight. Meanwhile, she texted our mutual friend the day before unsure if she could make it but with a slightly different reason. I didn't bother to reply or contact her since because why are you not communicating to me? My fiance also felt this was decided way long before because she never purchased from our registry, meanwhile, other people who couldn't make it and some people who weren't even invited did. There were a few other people on my side and my fiance's side who TRULY couldn't make it last minute but this situation makes me reevaluate people in my life.

If you think some of those friendships are worth keeping, so be it. But definitely be wary about some people in your life. It sucks, but we'll come across truer people in our lives that are in similar life stages as well. I hope you had a lovely shower overall!✨❤️

Ughh, some people are just so fake.

Both of them are my friends of many years 7yrs +.
I never missed a birthday for their kids nor shower etc…. Mind you this is my first child.
The fact you sat there and watched my entire shower (On my IG story) from start to finish without an apology of not making it was crazy!

But that’s okay, my husband and I are very known event planners we were showered very well with over 90 guests.