Instagram

Finstas? What is that. ?

I don’t like but these men just do what they want anyway so no point to make yourself crazy about it 🤷‍♀️it’s just Instagram

Nothing to understand they just men : hungry for women and sex nothing and nobody can ever change that

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with following random people as long as they aren’t communicating or he’s not constantly liking or commenting on inappropriate photos. There’s a lot of funny, inspirational, educational, etc things and I follow a lot of random accounts of people I don’t know 🤷🏾‍♀️ but I also know that I’m not doing anything shady. It’s hard to know what he’s actually doing.

And it’s my understanding that a finsta is a fake instagram where they can comment and contact either inappropriate or rude things. Some are racially or politically motivated and others are just to chat with girls or look at inappropriate content. I wouldn’t be ok with that.

So if you’re man just randomly starts following a lot of girls yall don’t care? lol yall don’t think that’s where the cheating starts?

@Lillie yes that’s what a finsta is

It’s all about how he interacts with them online. A follow is fine, but are they liking each other pictures and sliding into each Others dms and talking inappropriately acting like he is single sending little emoji back and forth ❤️🥰😍😛🔥🤤 any of this shit is crossing the line!!! Is there respect there? and is this female interaction business related or what’s the motivate behind wanting to follow each other and I think the whole “I’m showing support back” is bullshit in my opinion lol 😂 cause why you not liking the picture of her and her dog why you liking the picture of her in her lingerie lmao.

Yeah we broke up over this and wouldn’t get back together until he stopped his bullshit. He said he’s off social media.. but that’s just instagram and blocked me 🤣. It’s never going to end now with all this technology etc. my eyes it’s cheating but who am I. ( I’ve caught him doing stuff behind my back on social, only reason it’s bothersome to me)

I do follow random guys, they are mostly Hollywood kind of guys tho 🤣🤣🤣. they don’t post inappropriate stuff but I follow them, My man knows it, I never like their photos or comment. I wouldn’t mind if my man follows Hollywood women but to follow those inappropriate accounts that girls are showing everything and liking their pics and commenting I think I would not be ok with that.

Yes I care and have asked my husband to go through and unfollow certain women.

I don't care who he follows. I honestly never look at his socials, and he has no clue what a finsta is. I follow men I don't know, so I can't really be mad about him following someone.

No, I don't care. While yes, I do love my man, I still find other men (and women) attractive and he knows it, doesn't mean I love him any less or would try anything with those other people. We're pretty open about it tbh and often times look together 🤣 but if he's trying to hide it from you, thats when it becomes a problem

In the beginning of my relationship I cared about this, but then I talked to my therapist about it and she said that it’s a A Me thing not him thing and that as long as he’s not messaging them or liking every photo and commenting that I shouldn’t really worry because we all have eyes just because we’re in a relationship doesn’t mean that we’re not attracted to people And when my therapist said that I realized she was right

I don't care what that man does. At the end of the day, my man is faithful so I don't even worry about anyone he follows. Never even checked before. The finsta thing? I don't know bc to me it's for close friends only, so I wouldn't care about it. His ppl is his ppl. I will admit, before this relationship, I did care about that stuff, but I think it boiled down to trust in the person I was with...

Who cares, as long as they're not engaging with strangers

We both don’t follow anyone of the opposite sex other than family. It was something we set at the very start of our relationship. We both agreed it was disrespectful and there really was no need to follow anyone you don’t know 🤷🏽‍♀️ why you so desperate to see their posts. It was one of our boundaries. I’ve never had an issue with my husband going against it. But if it happened repeatedly I simply wouldn’t be with him. No point having boundaries if you’re going to keep allowing them to break them anyway x

I wouldn’t be happy with that if he’s following them now while with you the ones before hand fair enough still wouldn’t like it (if there inappropriate photos) but they were there before me but if it’s after we’re together nah that’s not on coz he’s only following them to admire them if it’s not a celeb or someone he knows or knows of

If I see him following a girl and the account is just sexy pics, I simply unfollow her on his account