Partner doesn’t want another baby

I personally feel like, if you love him and he's an amazing dad and partner to you, then this isn't worth breaking up your relationship and home for, especially if you're both in love and happy otherwise. You already have a beautiful little baby,
So I would say it's sensible to wait a couple of years and reevaluate how you both feel x

I’m in the opposite situation. He’s never said it to me but I’m fairly certain my husband would like another in the future. I’m adamantly against another one ever. However he’s made it clear that it’s not a deal breaker and he’s happy with our little family of 3.

If you know it’s not immediate that you want another, he may well change his mind further down the line so I think it’s a bit much to consider leaving now over something that hasn’t happened yet, especially if he’s otherwise an amazing daddy.

What are you reasons for definitely wanting another? Maybe you could lay those out for him and see if he elaborates on his reasons for not wanting one.

it’s really difficult. I’ve always imagined at least 2 children. It may be very cynical of me but every only child i’ve ever met have been selfish in one way or another, and all I’ve been friends with have always longed for a sibling! Our boy is very active and playful, I think he would thrive with a sibling. They’d have so much fun together!
I’ve laid all my reasons out for him multiple times, but he doesn’t want to know. Shuts me down and just says “i’m happy with one i just don’t want another, i never wanted kids in the first place but then he came along and i’m happy with him”.
Things happened very fast with us. We’ve not even been together 2 years yet. I’m honestly heartbroken that he’s barely open to the idea of another. :(

Personally if you are in a loving relationship and he is a good dad, I wouldn’t leave or break up the family. It’s hard to find a compromise when one wants a baby and the other doesn’t but you are fortunate to have your boy and the priority should be focusing on what’s present. I’m sure having a second baby would be possible but as someone who had 2 losses and seen friends go through secondary infertility I wouldn’t want base a life decision on it because there isn’t a guarantee you will have a second. Again I’m sure it is possible but would focus on your present. You never know what will happen in life. I’d suggest potentially looking at couples therapy and exploring both of your feelings around growing your family as a way to hopefully make peace with whatever the decision. Maybe look at all options of growing your family - second baby, adoption/fostering etc. For now, I would try to focus on your present and not let this drive a wedge or affect your son.

I’m sorry you feel that way and that you’re in this situation. I was an only child til 7 and was lonely because my parents had to work all the time to support us, then when I did get siblings I became the default babysitter so I don’t want that for my daughter. We are financially comfortable with one so we can spend that time together, I go to groups every day so she can socialise. I hope she will not grow up selfish, I will do my best to instil good values in her.
There is no guarantee that siblings will have that automatic bond. But that’s my perspective from my upbringing which is very different to your perspective.

As below suggested maybe some counselling would help - it took me and my husband 8 years to think about children and it was a big decision for us, which is why although I suspect he may want another, he knows my feelings about it and respects them.

Keep communicating and I wish you and your family the best ❤️

Thank you so much ladies. It has really helped me to see it from a different perspective. And I’m sorry if I’ve offended anyone with the single child thing!! It’s only based on my experiences as a child/growing up.
And i’m so sorry i didn’t think of the sensitivities of it either. I’m have a day 🙃.

that makes a lot of sense- although my partner isn’t great at voicing things, I think he may have played a big part in his siblings lives growing up as he is the oldest of 6. The youngest is 12 years younger than my partner!

Again thank you so much ❤️
Not that it’s an excuse but I’ve come on my period! So this may answer why my emotions are everywhere and i’m feeling so irrational and upset by it. :( x

You’re allowed to feel your feelings! Not offended in the slightest.

I’m technically the oldest of 5 (although didn’t live with the youngest two as split between mum/stepdad and dad/stepmum) but there’s 14 years between me and the youngest sibling I grew up with, and 17 years between my youngest sibling in my dads family. So I really get it, it’s tough.

Post partum periods are no joke! I get emotional as anything.

thank you ❤️

Honestly the emotions are like emotions I’ve never felt before during these periods🙈😂

No need to apologise! It’s helpful to gain a wider perspective and use forums like this as a sound board. Ultimately any decision is what’s best for you and your family but you are allowed to be human and emotional.

My comment around that was just sometimes we think having a baby is a given and it’s not always the case. I’m sure if you did go ahead for a second in whatever way you’d be successful but personally I wouldn’t want to make such a big decision on something that is not a guarantee and that was my point.

I genuinely think individual/couples therapy would be really helpful to explore the thoughts & feelings and communication is key so if you both agree to revisit the conversation at some point then try to stay present and then explore where you are both at when that time comes.