My husband keeps asking for poly

Follow your gut. You don't want a poly relationship, and he does. You have explicitly told him that you have no interest in an open relationship, so he should have left it as that the first, maybe the second time. If you truly don't want a divorce, sit him down and talk to him about it, but be open, honest, and don't let him pressure you to do anything you don't want to. Ultimately, if this is what he really wants, and he keeps bringing it up, I think that separation or divorce would be best, in my opinion. This is not fair to you, and it's disrespectful of him to keep asking you about it, especially after you stated numerous times that you had zero interest in having that kind of marriage. He seems to want the ok to have his cake and eat it too and at least he asked but I would be afraid that if you stay with him you will always wonder if he constantly thinks about being with other women or if he is already physically cheating, especially because he's already broken that trust.

I agree with Fabiana! 100% talk to him and try and work it out with him but if he cannot respect your decision then I’d say separate! But just out of curiosity if he’s cheated before then do you think it’s so he can sleep around? I mean that in the nicest way possible from someone who’s also been cheated on by my child’s dad multiple times just looking at it with the mentality my ex had that’s the sort of thing he’d do!

My intuition is telling me that he's asking to be poly and is being so persistent with it because he has someone in mind already that he wants to be poly with. That doesn't mean that he's done anything yet, but I would be worried that he would cheat again if he didn't get the green light to do it with your knowledge. I'm not saying that you need to agree to it, but maybe consider if this relationship is still serving you.

this!! This exactly what I think but I don’t trust no one 🤣🤦‍♀️

I think your gut is right. He doesn’t want the same kind of relationship that you want. You’re not enough for him, if he wants more people. And that alone would break my heart, not being enough for my partner. I think it’s awful that he keeps pressing it, but it gives you a real idea of where his mind is at. 😣

What was his reasoning for wanting one ? I’m just curious 👀

he would say things like she could help us out as a unit with the kids ,chores etc . Just a bunch of crap

lol crazy. Tell him to pay for a maid then lmao does he know he has to financially provide for her wants and needs to.

I think that's a little disrespectful that you obviously are against it and that it makes you uncomfortable to have to share your man in a open relationship. I would stand on it if that's not what you want and if he can't accept it then eventually you need to let him find someone that is OK with that and you find someone that is only FOR YOU and only sees a life with you and him . DONT SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS THAN WHAT YOU WANT , you only live one life and it needs to be the life you want!!

If he knew he wanted a poly relationship and u didn’t he shouldn’t of married you bc now he’s going to cheat and if he knows u can’t let go he might just have a Side piece or have someone in mind. I’ll be so disappointed and feel disrespected and sorry you’re going through that. Follow your gut. If he doesn’t realize you’re enough for him leave.

Better yet if my SO ask for a poly relationship I’ll say ok , pick a good looking , responsible & respectful guy🤷🏽‍♀️ I bet he have a change of heart then

Do it! If you can find the fun and rush of Adrenaline in doing so it ends up being a lot of fun and helpful if the 3rd party is serious and Just as beneficial as u guys .

No way, pack his bags, get a divorce, show him the door or throw him out the window. I wouldn't stand for this absolute trash behaviour, I think open relationships are a waste of time and just an excuse to f whoever, may aswell be single in my eyes

exactly, he clearly has a woman in mind he fancies more than his partner maybe and thinks I don't want to cheat so let's both cheat on and in front of each other, absolute madness
He could be secretly bendy the other way and say yes to either 😅

I definitely recommend finding a permanent solution to this before getting pregnant.

Personally I would run for the hills. If he doesn’t respect your wishes in monogamy, there are plenty of other things for him to constantly test the boundaries on down the road.

You really need your partner to be with you 100% if you’re going to start a family. It’s beautiful and wonderful and I love being a mum but sometimes that shit is HARD.
Choose the right partner to go through that with ♥️