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Im becoming furious!! 😡

This is a story but imma make it short Basically I’ve known my now bf for 8 years( when we dated years ago I didn’t have any children), fast forward to today I have a daughter with someone else. Me and my now bf split up years ago due to him cheating and just not being a man and knowing what he wants, we were separated for 4+ years, then I was with my daughters dad for almost 5 years engaged and everything, we split up then I got back with my ex, October of last year(i decided to give him one last chance), we have had some bumps in the road since we got back together but trying to work on things, one minute we are good then the next we are going thru something( he is a overthinker and thinks the worst a lot so that’s an issue for me). Me and my daughter moved in with him and his father but his dad has been complaining about us being here and sometimes my daughter tells me my bf grabbed her arm or put his hand on her neck, I know sometimes kids want there way so they don’t tell the truth all the time but I’m going to always stick up for me daughter. I confronted him about it and he said he didn’t do it on purpose and he apologizes and that he was trying to guide my daughters out of his family members room from bothering him , i am furious and I believe my best thing is to get me and my daughter out of here but I’m not working rn and don’t have any money saved up!! I don’t know what to do!! P.s I feels like he cares for my daughter and she likes him but when it comes to discipline I told him I’m the only one who is allowed to do that, I don’t care how he was brought up and raised( he told me his friends parents would pop him if he did something or wasn’t listen but I don’t care that’s not how imma go about things when it comes to my child), I don’t believe in that b.s it takes a village and that other ppl can discipline your children.

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Why did you get back with him ?? Did you need a place to stay?? My 2 cents is this ... 1. After such a serious relationship breakdown with your kid's dad you shoukd always strive yo be single and sort things out with yourself while single not jump onto another relationship immediately. This can be for when you end it with current bf ok. 2. Moving in with someone who you essentially don't know ..yes you don't know your ex anymore and especially NOT his father with a child of any age is irresponsible dear. Then if you don't work as well males it even worse. Are you leaving your kid with them or what?? It does take a village and you have to be responsible the village you let your kid in okay. So move out of there asap. Ofcourse the dad will complain because now there is a small child in his owise peaceful space who isn't even his biological grandchild!!!! I reckon go be single and focus on your child dear. And hope I don't sound harsh. A good relationship will come your way but thus is not it.

Is the father of the child a safe person or space that you can go back to temporarily? Can you explain the current situation? A family member or anything? You can go to a shelter

Thisis scary to read. Put cameras up in that house immediately , tell him tons of breaks in the area, ……also so you can make sure she’s doing right, as is he. Do not at all absolutely leave her alone with him and absolutely do not let him discipline her. That is not his daughter and he is absolutely no right to talk to her in any negative way. Discipline is for parent, not boyfriends of moms…. you should’ve already moved back in where you guys came from before you moved in with him and his dad because obviously he’s not treating her right kids don’t make stuff up like that and whoever told you that was clearly had different motives

@Lav it’s a long story No I didn’t need a place to stay, he offered to move in with him until I find my own place and I agreed( I should be in my own place soon but not soon enough), I was single for a min after my child’s dad. I do know him, I’ve known him a long time and I know his dad as well, I wouldn’t have moved in with him if I had just met him. I never said his dad is responsible for my daughter, I said he complains sometimes which is expected because he hasn’t had little kids in his house in a while. Not working I know is not really helping but I can’t make a job give me work( I’m doing the best I can to find work, I work in healthcare and the agency is a little slow). I don’t leave my child with him, it’s more so if I’m doing something and shes in the other room as him. I don’t believe in the whole takes a village so if that’s how he was raised that’s fine but that’s not how I was raised or how imma raise my daghter so I guess that becomes somewhat of a conflict.

@Lav his dad will complain then on the other hand say he don’t mind us being here and he’s fine with it, so he don’t know how to feel. I’m always focused on my child that’s why I’m doing the best I can to get my own place as soon as possible.

@Jacinda me and my daughter never lived with her dad( we lived with my mom aunt sister and brother) and that’s how it’s going to stay honestly. My current situation is that me and my daughter live with my bf and his dad but things aren’t always peaches and cream, me and my bf are not always on the best of terms and his dad complains about us being here then turns around and says he don’t mind ilia being here. I don’t want to take my daughter to a shelter( hopefully I start working next week, that way I could move into a place hopefully in the next few months)

@DJ AMMMM💕 i definitely am going to get some cameras, I mostly be in the same room as both of them, the only time is when I have to use the bathroom or I’m in the kitchen cooking. I don’t let him discipline her( the only thing I say he can do is hold her hand if she is trying to hit or kick him and then call me), I’m always saying something if I don’t like it and he knows things, I’m not one to bite my tongue or hold my anger towards someone when it comes to my daughter( he knows I’m very protective of her and will always stick up for her), I can not move back to my moms because there is no room now, I am doing my best to get my own place tho! It makes me mad because they seem to get along and he provides for her on his own free will( it’s only when he speaks in a tone I don’t like or when my daughter starts to get upset about something and starts screaming stomping and hitting that conflict comes in)