Pregnant & unsure

I’m pregnant with my 2nd (unplanned) my daughter is only 10 months old so wasn’t expecting this so soon and I was on contraception too. We always wanted two children but this was a shock and I’ve only just gone back to work from maternity leave and we’ve got lots of holidays planned this year so the timing wasn’t great and at first I was unsure about what to do, I did a list of pros and cons and ultimately I decided that if I didn’t keep this baby and then eventually when we did want another and I couldn’t get pregnant then I’d never forgive myself, that reason alone outweighed all the others. Also I wasn’t going to get a termination just because I’m going on a holiday or because my work might be annoyed. I think you have to weigh up your decisions, we are so excited now to have two baby’s close together where they will grow up together and I know there will never be a right time as something will always come up. If you feel like you can’t get a termination like you say then you

Should do a list of all the positives and then focus on that and it may change your mind. Can I ask what makes you worried you won’t get that bond again? It’s only your decision though x

I am pregnant with my third also unplanned I have two children that I was happy with and didn't want anymore and like you when I fist found out I was in two minds of having the baby or having a termination but again also like you I can't go through a termination, I think once your bump starts to grow and you feel the baby and that you will bond with it. Good luck it's so hard x

So when I had 2 boys, I was happy with my two and 100% convinced I didn't want any more. I went on to fall pregnant unexpectedly when my youngest was 8, I was so scared, in two minds what to do, not sure i wanted the baby etc. The pregnancy ended up being ectopic, and honestly i was absolutely devastated that we lost that little baby. We eneded up trying again, having a third, and now I am pregnant with my 4th 🤣🤣

Thank you all for being so open and the advice it’s really reassuring ❤️ I do think I would have always had a niggle in my head wondering if I should have had another so maybe this was just the path my life was destined to be on! I worry I won’t get the bond because of the circumstances under which we got pregnant I dunno it’s just a worry! I have written a list of pros and cons. The cons were a lot longer BUT the pros felt like they held so much more weight if that makes sense? I do also worry that if I go ahead with termination, I will regret it and want a baby (not that I think this would replace anything) and then if I can’t get pregnant I would hate myself x

I think you’ve answered your own question, you will love that little baby when it is born and won’t regret it! 🤍 you can still give yourself to two children and it will be nice for your child to have a sibling. What does your partner think? X

Just want to jump in and say having siblings is the best gift my parents could have given me. My little sister is my whole world x

My partner has been through the same motions as me to be honest. I think because it wasn’t planned we both just went “nope, not happening” and we did feel comfortable with our decision. But speaking to advisors/midwives and then having the medication delivered to my home for a termination just made it all real and we both flipped our decision. I can’t even look at the box of medication to be honest, I need to drop it at a pharmacy and get it out of the house. We both have siblings and of course couldn’t imagine life without them so hopefully this close age gap will create the best bond 🤞🏽 even tho I am terrified of having another baby haha x