Mega Meltdown 😹

it’s also healthy to want your child to be able to go with a trusted adult / babysitter so you can have the ability to unwind. She didn’t find joy that her child was upset and crying. She found joy in the fact that her child was able to enjoy her time without mom there.

never did I say I thought it was funny or that it made my heart flutter seeing her cry, what I actually said was that it made me giggle that it took her almost an hour and a half to realize I wasn’t there because she was clearly enjoying herself with my mom… but go ahead and try to shame me or make me feel bad for being happy my daughter actually had time without me and didn’t totally freak out the whole time.

thank you!

Healthy attachment, is healthy. Healthy attachment entails being able to form relationships with people outside of mommy and daddy… in a healthy manner.

An almost 2 year old with an over Codependency is not healthy. You’re doing a great job exposing her to safe environments without you Keep up the good work🤍

you’re right, she’s not your child… so why even come into the comments with the negativity? I feel like you either didn’t read what I wrote, or you chose to interpret it a negative way. Which if you did read it, you would have seen that I said she’s going to get over her attachment. Not some shitty comment of how she needs to get over her attachment to me, I love her with all my heart and love that she loves me so much…. But she is going to have to be away from me from time to time, and I don’t feel like letting her go with someone I trust with her for an hour or two is me doing anything wrong… so anyways, go about your day and feel free to keep your negativity away from me and mine please 🙃

I can understand how that would be bothersome, but why lead with judgment? Why not just continue scrolling instead of shaming or just comment and ask what she meant if it truly bothered you that much? I’ll never ever understand why people lead with judgment.

thank you, my mom said they were having a great time and that once they reached the other store is when she finally realized I wasn’t there. Not only that, but it was nap time so a meltdown was bound to happen.

Thank you for being openly rude on a public forum, so more people can know to avoid interactions with you later on.

It’s okay to disagree on parenting styles. It’s not okay to outright berate other people you disagree with.

okay, so I misunderstood what you meant 🤷🏼‍♀️
Just like you clearly misunderstood what I meant, either way we don’t need to judge each other or make the other feel like we’re doing things wrong. That’s not what this post was for.

not sure how this is turning a blind eye to whatever it is you’re talking about. You’re saying that because I was happy she was enjoying her time with her grandma so much she hadn’t realized i wasn’t there is bad parenting? I was just showing 1) the appreciation I had for my mom for taking my daughter and helping her have fun without me and 2) being proud that my daughter enjoyed herself with someone other than me.

sorry but i don’t think anyone asked what you’d do with your child?

I know that feeling, my daughter would sleep through any noise (big or small) but the second I would even move an inch she would wake up (sometimes she still does lol)

thank you, you guys definitely explained this much better than I could 😹💜

this was such an insensitive and unnecessary comment and can break down any new mom. She never said she was jumping for joy that her child was crying without her. It’s completely healthy at any age for a child to become comfortable with being left with close family members so mommy can also feel at ease. She was sharing a mini victory about her child that she knows best, not for the judgement comment but you can too carry on.

Just hear to say that allowing time for your daughter to be with other people with out you is SO healthy for the both of you. My daughter is a lockdown baby, May 2020, and what with being locked in doors for a year, then me and her dad going back to work and then her dad full on leaving altogether, she is now 4 and still incredibly attached to me - too much so! My partner has been around for 2 years and she is only just allowing him to do things for her rather than it be mummy all the time. She loves going to other people but if I'm around it's all about me. So creating some independence from your daughter is the best thing for you! Don't let any negative comments make you think otherwise ❤️

it totally caught me by surprise too, cuz she even cries when I forget something in the house and she stays with her dad while I run in to get it lol. I love her more than words, but also know it’s beneficial for her to have some time without me to get used to it for daycare and school when the time comes.

my nephew was born right at the beginning of Covid too, so I know what you mean. He is such a mama’s boy and is finally starting to feel comfortable enough to stay the night with my parents. Obviously I love spending time with my daughter, but I know other people would like that time with her as well and we’re working on doing that little bits at a time.

lol, my daughter is totally my little shadow. She’s literally sitting on me right now and playing with her new blocks. And luckily I’ve learned that negative people just like to be heard, so I just let it roll off. I’ll respond (obviously) and just say what I need to say back 🤷🏼‍♀️

kids are too funny! My daughter is generally a very happy little girl, but every once in a while she cries over the silliest things. Your daughter genuinely looks so disappointed 😹

She looks very disappointed, but that’s a good thing she only realized an hour after !
The mommy attachment is tough to get over specially at her age. But as much as she can spend time with family members the better will be for both of you. She needs to learn to be more independent and you have the right to have also some time for yourself. You are not just a mom, you are a woman and we need some time also to take care of ourselves even if it’s just for an hour. She cried and she will cry again for a few times when you are not around but eventually she will get over it and enjoy more being with other people and have fun without you, knowing you will come back for her.

Here's my dude throwing a tanty over a sandwich I offered him because he kept reaching for it - but the moment it was in front of him? Tears! He didn't want it!

I'm so glad your bubba had such a lovely time with her grandma!

it’s funny, because in a small social situation she is totally stuck to me and refuses to let anyone but me near her or hold her… but when it’s a large social situation with a lot of people she wants everyone to be her friend and lets anyone hold her 😹

hahaha, my daughter threw a tantrum when I helped her push her gogurt up so she would stop gagging herself and she threw herself back so hard on the mattress she bounced up 😹 the strangest things make them upset lol

oh yes all our kids are typically happy, & them having a silly crazy tantrum is them needing to feel those emotions too 🤣 unfortunately. I'm so glad everyone here is giving support, I had to go back to work when my daughter was 10 mo old so we could get a car. Putting her in daycare was so hard, but the teacher went above & beyond to send me photos within 30 minutes after I left to show me how much fun my daughter was having. I know she had hard times I remember the first week feeling pain while working, a deep pain for her.

& When I've needed a break prior I asked my grandma & dad to call me if she cried & they didn't because they knew I needed alone time. I went home & for 4 hours I slept & took a nice hot bath before my husband got home from work with our daughter❤️ I know she cried. She definitely cried for me. Don't ever listen to negative opinions on good parenting lol. They're going to throw fits/ have big emotions. & We are not bad for laughing about it after💖

kids, how to understand them haha unfortunately they don’t come with a manual 🤣 it’s good she’s social tho ! I know many kids that won’t get close to anyone and be on moms legs the whole time lol

when my daughter was like 10 months old she cried so hard she threw up because Trolls was over and she was obsessed with it 🤦🏼‍♀️😹

his reaction to the ocean- was notttt a happy baby

girl, we haven’t been anywhere that we’ve had to use one yet… but I can guarantee we’ll have to when we do, so no judgment here 😹

lmao, I love kids and their silly meltdown reasons 😹

my daughter hated the water too, but loved the sand