Advice
Mamas,
I need some advice. I know my daughter is trying to understand why she’s going from one parent home to another and it’s causing confusion. She’s 3, and she goes to her dad house every two weeks on the weekend.
When she comes back from her dad house, she’s pretty sad that she doesn’t see her dad for another two weeks and that break my heart that she has a broken family between her mom and dad.
I try to reassure her that daddy isn’t gone forever and that he’ll be back to see her, but it just goes to show me that parents who feel like that doesn’t effect a child, it really does.
I come from that and I know how much that can hurt a child, but I’m glad she gets to see her dad because for me when I was younger, my childhood I barely saw my father and my mother… I stayed with my great grandparents so I had to visit both my mom and dad. I seen my mom more than I seen my dad and that really effects a child.
I’m just glad I’m not the type that tries to keep my child away from her father, but I just want to have confidence in my parenting as a single mom with having to play mom and dad because it’s only one of me in the home.
I have my days when I feel like my discipline isn’t enough, my parenting isn’t enough, what I’m doing isn’t enough, but then I remind myself how much of a great job I’m doing and even by me thinking “if I’m doing enough” just goes to show that I am a great mom.
I just need some words of encouragement sometimes as sometimes I can get caught up in feeling like I’m not doing enough, sometimes I can get so caught up and that and feel like I’m a parent even though I know I’m not.
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Awww...divorce is hard for everyone involved. I am also a child of divorce and yes it really does effect your child. She is very lucky to have you both in her life. As long as your child is loved, safe, feed and happy then you are doing an amazing job! Parenting is hard and everyday is not going to look like the best and that's ok. They really don't care about all that as much as we do. Idk your circumstances or how your relationship came to an end but if you guys are able to be amicable then I would suggest maybe talking to him about face time calls on some day in-between to help her transition. Two weeks can seem like a long time for her age so that might help her understand that he is still around.
I am a FIRM believer that it's better to come from a broken home than to live in one. My parents split when I was 5 and I recently found out the biggest reason my mom decided to leave was that they were fighting so much she started drinking more and was driving with me after drinking and realized how dangerous it was and if she kept going the way things were, she was either going to end up with a DUI and possibly losing her child or worse end up hurt or killing herself or me in an accident. My dad was also an alcoholic. They separated and my mom remarried and I grew up in a much more stable home and saw my dad often (they never fought for custody, just decided it was best I live with my mom but could see my dad as often as I wanted or he wanted).
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As a young child, yes I was affected, but at my moms new house I got a barbie bed so I was happy and thats all that mattered. Lol my dad kept my original room furniture for me to stay with him whenever I wanted, but mostly he would just take me for the days. As an adult I know that this was the best thing my mom could have done to break that home because I grew up with parents who loved me and weren't fighting constantly.
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Can the stays become more frequent? I mean she’s old enough
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