Struggling with motherhood

Does anyone else feel guilty for not loving being a mum? I absolutely love my baby and I know I’m so lucky to be in this position but I can’t help but feel like I’m not the most maternal person, it’s something I have to work hard at everyday, it just doesn’t come naturally to me and I feel so guilty for feeling that way, obviously when things are hard I feel it more and tonight has been hard. Is it normal to feel this way?

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I hope it’s normal because I feel the exact same, it’s like going to work but harder 🤣. I absolutely adore my little girl but I haven’t found motherhood has come naturally to me at all, I feel guilty about it but she’s happy and thriving which Is all that matters xx

I feel exactly the same ☹️

I feel the same and feel so guilty for feeling this way 😔 especially at the age he is now I’m finding it really hard

In my experience it's normal! I have felt exactly the same xx

Hi. Being a mom is hard. And we’ve been conditioned to not talk about how hard it is or how much we struggle. Just like the babies are learning to be people, we’re learning how to be parents every day. We’re humans who have emotions and sometimes it’s not easy trying to regulate our emotions while trying to regulate someone else’s. Babies are very overwhelming and overstimulating and as much as I love being a mum some days it’s just hard, some days you need a cry. Some days you try everything and nothing may work. It’s okay to take a step back and regroup. But it doesn’t mean you’re not a good mum. The fact that you feel this way means you’re making an extra effort to be the best mum you can for your baby. You’re doing great!