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i think you should definitely communicate your feelings to him, like you have in this post. i think sometimes our partners think we’re just over reacting, as it is their mom at the end of the day but they need to know when things are getting too much

I have talking to him I have communicated everything with him time and time again and nothing seems to be working I am trying very hard but it's making me dislike her and I feel if it keeps going me and my boyfriend will be done

@Amanda i’m not sure of how bad your MIL is of course, but my MIL can be very invasive which causes many arguments in our household. what i did when it started to get too much, i sat him down and said if this continues then ill talk to her myself and ban her from coming round to visit & my partner actually did something about it (he hadn’t done before i said that). i love my MIL and we had such a good relationship before i fell pregnant, but her becoming a Nan has changed her so much & it’s pushed a wedge between us. until i really put my foot down and took matters into my own hands, that’s the only time my partner actually acted on it so maybe try that?

Yeah thank you I love my mil as well I care about her a lot and we had a good relationship before I got pregnant and than when I had our daughter she got worse thinking everything has to go through her first or that I'm always doing something wrong I get opinions are everywhere and her being worried I understand but I'm a good mom and do everything and more for my babies so it's at the point now I have to put my foot down because she is not her mother and I hate to say but she crosses boundaries that I put in place because I will do anything for my children but I will not tolerate things I don't believe in. I also have told him if he don't say something I will and she won't be allowed around as much and he still has not said anything to her so yesterday he was on the phone with her and she was saying things like you better put sunscreen on my baby or I'll come over and kick ass or you need to put oatmeal in her bottle so my son can get sleep that's just somethings she does but I could go on it's way to much

I also came back with she isn't outside long but I no to put sunscreen on my child and him get sleep really he signed up to be a parent so I believe we should be tired together. But it don't stop there he tells her everything about our relationship and my relationship with my other children or my parents like none of that is any of her business we are not married so my other kids has nothing to do with her she doesn't even see them as her grandkids or ask about them or nothing but wants to no all the business it's to much

@Amanda you have every right to feel the way you are, and you have to do what’s right for you & your children which it sounds like you are. your partner and his mother will have to live with it 🤷🏻‍♀️

True I don't like to be this way but when it comes to my children I will do what's best for them and she has been very toxic and my boyfriend's brother won't even let her see his kids and I can see why now but I don't want it to end our relationship because his mother is toxic I hate all of this because this was not how she was at first and I just don't see what went wrong she blames me for everything and my boyfriend has lived at home all his life up to 5 months ago and but I never new any of this stuff until I got close to having out daughter and everything came to the light it was like he didn't want me to no everything at the beginning and that makes it very hard on me to deal with