Rights and wrongs of abortion
I know this is maybe not the place to be writing this but hear me out. I recently found out I was pregnant my little girl is 7 months old currently, me and the baby’s father are not together.. but still speaking, not living together but it is not healthy with arguments etc etc. I found out I was pregnant a week ago. This is not what I want, I am bringing up my girl on my own.. firstly I did not think I would be doing this . aswell as this he is expecting me to keep the baby, is he delusional? I have no place to call home for now, we will not last and give it a month or so and we WILL completely cut ties. am I wrong for doing this, the guilt is a thing and if I was in the situation to do this WITH support, financially etc, this will break me I believe, but I know a few years down the line will make me also. am I being selfish for thinking this, should my decision be based on myself being able to cope alone or am I expected to suck up what I’ve done and deal with it without having the guilt😞😞😞
Pleas be kind as I know this subject to many is very touchy but to others they will understand the rights to be able to do what is right for you and your body.
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No one can tell you what the right or wrong decision is for your situation because you know yourself and your abilities the best. Do whatever you know will be the best for you and your little family. You are not selfish. Sending you so much love 🫶🏽
Adoption is an option
@Bella yes
As I fully understand the whole choice situation, the guilt personally would kill me, especially if I already have a child and to say your little body mattered but sorry to this other angel. I know it might be harder, but I’d rather love my kid and not have the guilt, there is also adoption and there’s other resources of support as well. No one can tell you what to do but just from a personal perspective I couldn’t. I don’t really like abortion, but I also understand in some circumstances it’s but there’s so many people who carelessly and recklessly have sex and then just get abortion after abortion just because they don’t want kids, but don’t want to be cautious.
I am someone who is a firm believer in choice and there isn’t anything wrong with it for choosing to go down this route. I myself had an abortion at a time in my life because for my circumstances it was the right choice for me. People may suggest adoption but going through another pregnancy might be difficult if you’re already looking after a baby and haven’t solidified the foundations in your life because of your relationship breakdown. Don’t let people try and sway you because THEY don’t like the idea of abortion and it’s “wrong”! You have to do what you feel is the right choice in your life for you. Big hug, because it certainly isn’t easy💖
I was almost in this position except that my test came out negative and I am with my baby's dad just that he's the only one working and we wouldn't have been financially able to have another kid we where kinda arguing about it before I took a pregnancy test because I said that if it was postive i wouldn't want to keep it because our baby was a couple of months old (i had an emergency c-section)and i feel that I am not physically or mentally ready for another pregnancy for a while for lots of reasons i explain these to him and he now understands and we'll be waiting on having more kids for now anyways enough about me YOU ARE NOT BEING SELFISH like you said it is your body you are are going to be the one to go through your pregnancy ,birth, postpartum with a new born and your first born you have already gone through this you know the difficulties that come with bringing a baby to this world you have already gone through this with this guy you know how he is and if you're having these thoughts it's for a reaso
I know this isn't such an easy thing to think about but Like I said you have your reasons to be thinking of an abortion because only you yourself knows your relationship with him you know about all the things you've gone through with him i think it's great that you are thinking about yourself and your babygirl because from what is see you are the only one bringing her up on your own and you know that you're already having issues with only one child being able to provide for her on your own i say it's best to go on with it if you feel it's best and give your all to yourself and your little girl I wish you all the best 🥰🫶🏽🫶🏽I am pro choice if you ever need to talk go ahead and send me a message I don't judge anyone so please don't judge me on what I shared about myself
I had a termination when my oldest was 10 months old I just wasn’t ready for another baby we had one slip up. I don’t regret it to this day, it was the right decision for me at the time. We would have struggled. I’ve had more children since then it was a long time ago but you do what’s best for you 🥰
Thankyou everyone. Every one of these comments has gave me a little more knowledge on my decision. So I thank you all for that.
Just make sure that your making this choice for yourself not based on whether or not the father will play his part
Daria explained really well! Consider the baby will some day be your little ones brother or sister!
Consider adoption! Some of the families are very gracious and will help yooou
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