I’m an idiot

Hey - So me and my daughters dad decided to try give things a go again my lo is almost 2 and I’ve always felt guilty as I had PPD and he was awful and barely seen our little one but I convinced myself it was due to my mental health at the time. So he mentioned that when we weren’t together he had considered giving up rights and I was obviously appalled but again blamed myself. Well literally 2 weeks into giving it a go he told me he couldn’t come and see our daughter (he works away all week can only see her weekends) as it was his dads 60th. I’ve since found out that he completely lied about this it was his dads 60th last year and the photos he sent of it was from last year instead he went out with friends and got smashed behind my back with pics to show for it. I had messaged him about the 60th as it was on the Saturday and I said try not get too drunk you can’t make it through on Sunday and he basically said he will get drunk but he’ll be through and then cancellled last min so I told him our daughter was a bit upset and he was like oh I’m so upset too (he was out on a bender). I obviously am not going to take this any further as in a relationship as he has lied in the past etc so this has just proven he hasn’t changed and probs won’t. The thing is as soon as he realises I’m not in a relationship with him I’ll get threatened with court again, he’s did it for the past two year but never bothered to go through with it. How likely do you think he will actually go to court? He is not on the BC.
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I’m also considering CS as he misses payments here and there when we’re not in a relationship, but I know he can then ask for a free dna test and this can help with court, he knows he’s her dad but I know he will do it to at least try scare me

I don’t think he’s likely to go to court if he barely spent time with her in the first place. It sounds like he’s tryna scare you, if he’s choosing nights out over his child I think it shows his priorities but you know him best so go off your judgement 🤍

In my experience men threaten with court because they’ve lost control over you. What’s the use in him taking you to court when he clearly doesn’t want responsibility for your child? And if he wants a DNA test, let him have one 🤷🏽‍♀️ there’s no need for you to feel scared about court or DNA test, you know he’s a father and you know that you’re a great mum with or without him. Use the collect and pay service for child maintenance.

https://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance-service/how-to-apply

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