Single child loneliness

Any single child moms out there who are worried that their child will be alone once they die? I am a single child myself and miss having siblings or anyone near dear to talk my feelings out. I just don’t know how tomale this conversation with people since I never had one and grew very lonely. I M just worried my child might likely feel lonely in her adult life once I M no more. I regret marrying my husband and his attitude. He is a loner and doesn’t need anybody. I do want to have another child but also worried. Please pour in your thoughts moms. Thank you! I really appreciate you adding any thoughts/ suggestions/ comments

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I would say to keep in mind that siblings don't equal a forever friend. Lots of people do not have good relationships with their families or their siblings. If you want another child, you should certainly have one. But there are no guaranteed relationships. Having a sibling doesn't mean someone won't be lonely in the future.

I agree with what @Rhiannon said in their comment! I’m also an only child (and I also only happen to have one child) and that thought has never even crossed my mind for myself or for them. It’s likely my kid will have close friends/a partner growing up. So I feel it’s always likely they will have someone to lean on. My husband has 3 siblings and while they’re on good terms they rarely ever speak outside of family gatherings n such. They don’t text or anything. So just because they have a sibling doesn’t mean they’ll necessarily use that person as a shoulder to cry on necessarily. If anything I would be. A lot of my clients have told me they’re not close with siblings of theirs either. And of course there’s the mix that are very close. I think it’s a situation that would truly be out of your hands in the future as it could go either way. Don’t see a reason to fret so much!

@Rhiannon thank you

@Eleni thank you

I was the only kid for 5 year and I beg my mom for a sibling. Which nowadays I totally regret, like I love my little brother somehow, but he is a hard to deal, he beat me all my childhood and my teenager time and I felt marrying in a young age to go out of the house as soon as I could, he is beating my parents instead of me and now beating wives. No, siblings not always help in anyway to help with loneliness, cousins and friends can do the job much better.

I’m an only child- I’m 33 will be 34. I’m so close with my parents. We talk daily if not daily every other day. I’m happily married my husband has 3 siblings. Their family is a shit show. My husband likes to stay out of the drama. They are all successful- however it’s just insane. The siblings are so bizarre and the sister has serious father issues he was strict and not a great dad— the brother might be gay— and then the younger one is okay- but he is still immature in so many ways. I have 2 children and I am good I have a boy and a girl. My girl is younger It’s tough they argue… they love each other, then they are arguing again, then they are playing and laughing. So be mindful. Do what you can handle. Don’t ever be afraid of loneliness. Only children aren’t lonely— we have friends and we look at the world subtly different. 🙂 don’t ever be afraid of loneliness.

I have a brother that I haven't seen or spoken to in 30 years and I have no desire to . Don't discount the family we make in life that are not blood. I have a son and I won't be having any more children.

If crosses my mind sometimes but I also think about how many people I know with siblings who have bad or nonexistent relationships with those siblings. What you're missing is an idealized sibling relationship but reality can be far different so you could have another and they could still want nothing to do with one another as adults. I think it makes way more sense to build connections for your LO now. Work on their village. Find people to have play dates with so your child has a diverse group of friends. Model social behaviors and good relationships so every relationship in their life (your partner if that's worth it but it's difficult to say since you mentioned you regret marrying him... But also family and friends) is a good model for your child to build their relationships/friendships after. I'm an only child and very close with my parents but I feel comforted that I'll have my partner and family after my parents pass, and I have strong relationships with plenty of other family members.

I only have the 1 atm and I want a 2nd just as much as I wanted the 1st. I’ve always known I wanted two. I think a lot of women have more because they feel like they have to give them siblings or they feel obligated to have more. You should have more because you want more not just because you feel like your child needs a sibling.

I have a son, and I don’t think I will have anymore kids. I have 3 brothers and 1 has 4 children (2 girls and 2 boys). The boys love my son and are always trying to find away to come hangout with him. (Even tho my son is a month old) lol but I know that he will also make friends outside of our family. I pray God blessed him with a beautiful village of people who he loves and loves him.