Is it wrong to do things for mothers day as im only Expecting?

Is it bad that i want to celebrate mothers day as a momma? Im 12 weeks pregnant with my first baby and my family has pretty much frowned upon the thought that i wanted to be included in the mothers day celebrations because im just an "expecting momma" and not actually a mom yet

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Personally I would just wait and enjoy your ‘first’ Mother’s Day when baby is here.

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Um no! I celebrated Mother’s Day when I was pregnant. You’re still creating and carrying a baby, you can still be celebrated even if your baby isnt “earth side” yet

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My hubby got me presents from the bump for Mother’s Day a few months ago

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No, you're doing the work and taking care of the baby and therefore just as much a mother as once baby is here.

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My husband is celebrating me and my in laws sent me a gift. Growing a baby is no easy feat!

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Girl, you’re growing your baby and that makes you a momma! Go celebrate 🫶🏼💕 I am!

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NO! I am pregnant & 100% planning to celebrate Mother’s Day. My bf knows how excited I am to be a mom & plans to treat me for Mother’s Day as well. No need to wait we are carrying our children we are MOTHERS. They don’t have to be physically present yet to be a mother. Doctors call me mama & my baby isn’t even here so why shouldn’t I consider myself a mother on Mother’s Day?

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You ARE a mother. You celebrate.

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I plan on celebrating while i’m pregnant! I told my husband just last night that Mother’s Day is soon and he asked what I wanted to do. I plan on celebrating Father’s Day for him also. It’s definitely something we deserve as expecting moms. Ignore your family and do what you want!

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I don't think it's bad at all.

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I wasn't pregnant over mother's day but I 100% would have expected a card "from the bump" if I had been x

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you’re a mum from the moment of conception, congrats & celebrate 💖

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You're definitely a mama. I considered myself a mama after my miscarriages. They were both around 6 weeks so I didn't even have ultrasounds of my babies but they were my babies. I personally didn't really want to celebrate fully but I feel there's no reason you shouldn't be allowed to celebrate. An expecting mama is still a mama.

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You’re a mom…shame on them. That’s such a weird thing for them to trip over..

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Girl no, celebrate this day if you want to! Everyone’s different, some people believe you’re not a mom until that baby is born but it depends for each person, I felt like a mother from the time I found out I was pregnant with my first, I didn’t know if I should celebrate Mother’s Day while I was pregnant with him I almost felt guilty like I would be taking away from mothers with kids, then I lost my son at 17 weeks, and then Mother’s Day actually came and I felt all the worse, it’s about to be my second Mother’s Day and I’m pregnant with my second and I plan on celebrating that life inside me while also remembering my first born !

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Your still a mom celebrate

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you’re a mother as soon as the baby is in you. i am 34 weeks and 5 days, you’re still actively taking care of a baby 24/7, carrying it 24/7. i wanna be celebrated too but haven’t mentioned it because my husband said “next year we’ll celebrate when he’s actually here” and i won’t bring it back up, i think i deserve to be celebrated but it’s whatever, im taking myself for a full brazilian, nails and toes are gonna be done and i have a hair appt set up!

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For my first pregnant Mother’s Day, my husband got me a mom necklace. It was very sweet and he was so excited to! Other than that we celebrated our moms, but it was nice that he thought of me!

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Definitely do whatever you want. Celebrate if it makes you happy. I’m not going to because I’m not a mom yet, only 26 weeks along. Will definitely be celebrating next year though.

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If you want to then definitely celebrate, it doesn't matter if your family thinks you shouldn't, you have every right to celebrate if you want to
I didn't with my first pregnancy cause I didn't even think about it

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youre still a mom regardless of if you have a baby in your arms. youre holding the next generation, your family should be wanting to celebrate that.

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I don't see anything wrong with it. Something small won't hurt wether it's a little lunch or a small gift or won't hurt. Why do they care so much. It's in your description "expecting MOTHER". why the hell not. It's not hurting them especially if it's something intimate with you and your partner and I'm sure many people will ask you if you're celebrating without ill intent. It's okay to say yes and it's okay to consider your first mother's Day with your baby in hand as your first mother's Day.

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We didn’t celebrate it as such, however my hubby did treat me to breakfast in bed and got me a baby mama massage which was so lovely and I was not expecting it at all!

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Yes, celebrate! I did xx

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I didn’t celebrate Mother’s Day until I was actually a mum meaning baby had been born .

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You ARE a mother! 🥰 Happy first Mother’s Day to you and go treat yourself!

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Celebrate because ur still a mom just the baby isn't here yet I don't see a problem

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I would!
I’m due two weeks after Mother’s Day and I’m celebrating.

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Celebrate if you want to. I personally didn’t.

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I asked this question too and everyone keeps telling me it’s okay to celebrate. I am currently 33 weeks

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Yeah something small with my partner like breakfast I wouldn’t do a family thing though

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My partner and I are going to be celebrating mother’s AND Father’s Day this year. I’m currently 26+3 weeks. I tell you now that the physical, emotional, and mental changes you go through during pregnancy make you a mama the moment you find out. Don’t feel bad or discouraged. You’re a mom now. Even if it’s just you and your partner celebrating, do so confidently

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Celebrate !!!! I am trying to make plans with my boyfriend to celebrate my first Mother’s Day at 13 weeks. I think it is very important and special to bond over the fact that you are growing a new life.

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Girl you are a mother ❤️ go Celebrate, as soon as you found out about your baby, you became a mom, you are growing a baby❤️❤️

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