Second children...
My husband made it very clear that he doesn't want another child for a while. I'm already 32 and don't want to wait forever as my health is always up and down. Him saying that upset me so much...I was hoping I can get pregnant sometime after my sons first birthday so that I'm strong enough for another tough pregnancy and I can give my LO a sibling. I have always wanted two so him saying he doesn't want any for a long time hurts 😔 parenthood has hit him harder than it has me tbf but still... I wish I could give my LO a sibling soon...I already feel ready 😔
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So honestly the best thing to do is look at the positives. It's really sad when desires don't align but ultimately its really important to honour our partners needs and choices.
Some positives... the body hasn't fully recovered at the year mark and most medical professionals recommend waiting until two years!
While a close age gap might give close siblings, there's always the risk of more jealousy. And toddlers are hard work. I've yet to meet a mum who has two under two that doesn't look incredibly exhausted!
Big age gap means your LO gets to be an older sibling. It's a different role and you can really feed into it by making a big deal out of it.
I'm also 32 and my partner isn't convinced about having another yet but realistically if we do it'll be in a long while. Probably 3 to 4 years.
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