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First time mums

Would you feel a type of way?

So we haven’t been doing well financially for the past couple of months and my parents have been able to help us a lot on top of that my mum looks after our daughter while I’m at work 3 days a week
Because we haven’t had any spare money planning my daughters birthday hasnt been at the front of our minds but whenever I did mention something about it my partner wouldn’t really show any interest
Now my MIL started to say things about her birthday and ask questions and such only then did my partner seem to care that we need to start planning it
We have a date which we’d like to do it it which is actually only a little over a week away now
I suggested as we’ll be sending out invites so last minute we should have a BBQ in the park (which I’ve searched is allowed) so that way we don’t spend so much money booking a venue if not many ppl turn up
My partner basically laughs at the idea and say no we have to have a venue which we can’t afford btw
So my MIL calls my mum and then tells my partner that my mum has offered to pay for the venue when my partner tells me this, it didn’t sound right as my mum would talk to me if she was offering to do that as she already offered to pay for the cake
So when I talk to my mum she says she thought that mil meant they both pay half. I know how my MIL can be and to me it just feels as if my mum was cornered into saying she’ll pay for it and I’ve talked to her about it saying it’s not really fair but my mum is too sweet and now she insists

I really don’t like how my mil did that but she’s impossible to talk to and I feel like we shouldn’t be doing things we can’t afford

My mum and mil are doing the food (although my partner mentioned that he will have to pay his mum for this) so all that’s left for us to cover is decorations and even though it’ll just be some banners and balloons we have no money unless my partner gets paid which is up in the air as whenever he says he’s getting paid he doesn’t, on top of that all the ideas I give my partner shuts down

Am I being over sensitive or do I have a right to feel a type of way?
I am grateful that our parents can help so much but the whole thing is just giving me a very uneasy feeling