Single mom life / dating

I think you should wait till babies here and build your village in the meantime

I see nothing wrong with it! 🤷🏽‍♀️ long as they’re genuine and really want u for u and not just sex! A lot of men have a weird infatuation with preg woman bc of our vaginas and just some women are more vulnerable especially being pregnant single and “lonely “ ….. gotta be careful but we’re all human! Even if u weren’t preg gotta be careful! I say go for it ! Weed out the bad ! Keep the good!

Another thing u can’t put a time limit on “love” all because you’re pregnant don’t mean you’re incapable or not worthy .. or disabled lol it’s a baby . I see nothing wrong with it but in everything be careful I would suggest NO sex though! Pregnancy is very sacred so if they don’t understand that major red flag get rid of him QUICK!

I started dating my now boyfriend when I was 4 months pregnant I told him I was pregnant and if that bothered him and it didn’t and we started talking then going out and eventually he stayed through the rest of my pregnancy until I had the baby! Being pregnant wasn’t a big deal to him! My ex bd wasn’t in the picture either he has just disappeared on me at 4 months preggo and I didn’t hear from him until 2 days after I gave birth . I’m now pregnant with my boyfriend that had I started talking to at 4 months preggo and now I’m pregnant w his baby rn and i have my 10 month old. He’s so much better and understanding with the situation and takes care of my baby and does everything I ever wanted! You definitely know what not to put time in trust meeee someone will appreciate you and love you the way you deserve and guys are interested and not weirded out I swear

Thank you guys for your perspectives! Like all things I don’t think there’s a totally right answer besides being cautious yet open to what miracles life can bring. It is hard to not feel alone and unloveable in this journey, but I’m also very preoccupied with being the best mom I can be!

Focus on urself and that baby…

why can’t y’all just focus on the baby first instead of trying to date?

The first question I would ask myself is why you feel the need to replace your feeling of loneliness and lack of love with a man and dating. I’m in the same situation as you but have used the time of my pregnancy to work on loving myself and loving alone time with my baby. I’ve concentrated on getting my home organised and threw myself into this app and starting a single mamas group in my area. We are now a group of 15+ supportive single mums who I can reach out to whenever I have times of loneliness or worry. We also organise meet ups. I agree with what @Stephanie Louis-Juste said and build your village first. I don’t or didn’t have this so it was important I took the steps to build my own. The love of a man can come once I’ve poured love into my baby and myself 💞

I also just wanted to say…dating while pregnant won’t necessarily weed out the wrong men faster…I’ve had plenty of male interest since being pregnant because of the pregnancy kink some men have which is a MAJOR red flag for me. Personally I couldn’t be intimate with someone I just met or didn’t know very well while carrying someone’s else’s child. Even for the health of my baby I couldn’t do but I know women who have. Each to their own

@Emily I don’t think anyone said we can’t. Just asking for perspectives since I hadn’t even thought about it yet. I have been personally focused on myself and baby this whole time

Girl u can’t ask nothing on this lil app people can never just straight answer a question they jump to assume and I see why people go incognito… 🙄. Honestly love follow your heart !! Whatever it’s telling u to do , try , just believe it & go with it! It’s either gonna work or it’s not! 🤷🏽‍♀️ good luck

@Dreia that’s awesome! I guess because I do have a strong village already and have spent the last 10+ years building a great life for myself I have done a lot of that work already, and continue to! It would be great to have more pregnant mom friends too though, and that’s why I’m here. Most though, are moms and wives already so they have their priorities at home, where I have my cat. I’m certainly not focused on finding a man, although I do think finding a good one could help feel safer in this very vulnerable time. (Yes it’s quite easy to spot the dudes with gross pregnancy kinks and nooo thank you!!) I was just curious if I should be actively turning down interest or open to it in the first place if a friend sets me up.

I guess if you’re having interest from men who you already know and there’s a romantic connection then yes! Absolutely but it really is up to you. Sounds like you have a strong foundation already x

@Mera Love it’s quite funny huh! Thanks for your kindness and good luck with your LO coming soon!! 🫶🏼

Thankyou !!

I was in a very similar situation not too long ago, and would love to chat via message

I honestly wouldn’t even consider it, there’s already a lot going on and trying to to date would just kinda amplify things