Cheating

I recently found out that my husband has been sexting/ FaceTiming/ calling multiple women for over a month. Keeping in mind that we have a 2 month old little girl. He downloaded an app and started texting these women, not telling them that he was married or had a child. I found out last night when I went to text his mom back on his phone as mine was dead and saw “sexy🤤” in a text. He told me that he fucked up but that it wasn’t going on long. I’m trying so hard to forgive him but I can’t trust him. I used to be so secure in our relationship but I figured something was off when our sex life dipped and he wasn’t as loving. He still isn’t but blocked the women and deleted the app. I’m very torn about what to do. I don’t want to leave because I love him and I don’t want our little girl to have a broken home. But I hate that I feel the need to look at who he is texting or FaceTiming now. It especially hurt because he said something to one of the women that he said to me while we were dating that I held close to my heart. I’m so hurt and angry but I am trying to hold it together for our little girl. I now don’t want to be intimate with him because I feel like he will be thinking about the other women. I am already insecure in my postpartum body and now all I can think about is how much he must hate my appearance to look for sex/partnership elsewhere. He says he never physically did anything but the fact that he even started to cheat makes me so scared. I truly love him and it hurts that he did that.
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Definitely cut off sex, that's what I would do if my man cheated. You don't know if he's clean and should demand a std test honestly. I wouldn't break up with him if he's a good father and you don't want a broken home but I would cut him off from most areas of my life until I felt better.

He won’t stop. My daughter’s father is the same. I would catch every couple of months. Most recently 3 weeks ago. He works out of town and still found time to cheat on me. I gave up and called it quits.

i’m so sorry that you’re going through this, some men are trash 😣 i wouldn’t be able to trust him either if i was in your shoes, once you’ve broken that trust with me, i can’t get it back and it’s a dead end. what a horrible position he’s put you in, just because he couldn’t help himself. it makes me so angry 😬 you need to do what’s right for your happiness and your little girl, i hope you’re okay ❤️

Aw. So sorry you’re going through this. Have you guys thought about couples counselling to help navigate this difficult time?

Better to have a broken home than an unhappy home. Know your worth- he clearly doesn’t.

@Michelle up until this I have felt very secure but now I’m so insecure all I am wearing is baggy clothes and honestly I want to feel secure in his arms again but I know it will take time. And I told him if I even think he’s doing it again that I’m gone and he’s never gonna see me again.

@Megan Posada I have cut off sex, I don’t even let him kiss me rn. I’m so hurt and confused by this whole thing

Uhhh this is hard! Hate to say it but this is going to be hard!! Once trust is lost its lost! I cant forgive cheating if my man is commenting on a woman's picture im good!! Trust is the hardest to get back to! If you really love him you will have to learn to trust, forgive, FULLY forgive! Not ever bring it up as if it never happened thats what they expect cuz were "trying over" NO it don't work that way!! They don't get to tell us to put our feelings aside because they cheated and we can't get over it!

And to top it off I know you seeing whatever he said to someone else hurt like hell! Especially you saying that was special to you! Something you thought was so sacred of you both just went to shit because he says it freely as it means nothing

Update on the issue: Since he doesn’t have me on any of his Social media like pictures or with “❤️💍”, is it right that I took it off all of mine?

The emojis are the least of your concern.. He’s only sorry because he got caught.

He's disposable. You won't die without him. I'm sure it's all a sudden shock to you atp, but you're not making much sense talking about social media and emojis and such. He's already gone far beyond that.

Are you really asking if its right that you take it off all of yours cuz he don't have on his?!?!?!

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