Is a baby shower necessary?

i’m not super close with all of my family besides my immediate ones and I’ve never been a huge party person. I stopped having birthday parties when I was 8, so the thought of having a baby shower does not interest me at all. I don’t want to be fake to a bunch of people I don’t speak to anyways, but my husbands side of the family and my sister are shoving the idea down my throat. I get that it’s not for me, it’s for the baby, but i’m still the person that has to sit in the room. not my child. I have to entertain the guest. not my child. I also have severe social anxiety and would spiral into a panic attack. my husband supports whatever I want 100%, but i’m starting to get super fed up with other’s opinions on my not having a baby shower. My stance is that you don’t need a baby shower to get something for my baby. If you were going to do it, you would regardless. i’m tired of hearing “You need to have a baby shower so you get things for the baby”

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The idea is to have a party to thank the people for the gifts

You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.. a baby shower is to celebrate the unity of mom baby and family. Those who don't understand will get over it.

🤮🤮🤮 Girl im with you just make an amazon wish list and tellem all to send you stuff off of it or they can instacart you some groceries or cashapp something for a bill. Do you baby it's not about them. My baby shower finna be me this new shower head a robe and same deal if yall wanna help send me something and I'll thank you on the backside. I dont want a bunch of folks around me trying to touch me or my belly. I'm like leave me to my peace and my home. For real.

There's always registries, so a party to get gifts is an excuse to just party Im having one to gain more support and make some life long friends

@Shore I don’t see the need to have a party to thank people for gifts. I can just as easily thank someone for their gift without 100 pairs of eyes watching.

@Lexx you’re so right! thank you 😭

@Brooke Honestly! I just want to be in my space protecting me peace 😭

@Shay you are momma. Thats your call honey don't take no pressure off anyone but yourself. You're making the baby and you baby's momma your institution will guide you to do what's best for yall!! I fully support not following uncomfortable and unnecessary traditions. 🙃 Hell we tired all the time making these babies no time.to entertain everyone else!!

I’m not having one. We bought pretty much everything for our twins and some family members are still asking to get gifts. I’ll send thank you messages and cards out but a baby shower is a lot sometimes. I love the games and idea but it’s not worth it if your support system isn’t there. We did a baby shower for my first and we got nothing we really needed so that’s was more money spent. Our second we didn’t do a baby shower and family still sent gifts.

No just do a registry instead

I hear you! I don’t think baby showers are all that fun, but the older generation might think it’s rude if I’m asking for gifts without anything, since it’s tradition

My sister didn’t have a baby shower but shared her baby registry. To those who asked. Now for my case Lowkey don’t want one but then I do. The struggle 😬

I didn't have a baby shower for any of my kids, this is my 3rd.. and with this one I've had ppl buy stuff for the baby

You can do a virtual one

You have to do what is best for you and your family/kid. Not what society or anyone else expects. Anyone who can't understand that is selfish and isn't truly trying to support you and have your best interests in mind.

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You can have a sprinkle instead with a couple of family members and friends

My family is all over the country so I don't plan on having one. I created an Amazon registry that I sent to everyone. I plan on sending gorgeous thank you cards to make up for it.

I’m not having one, I felt bad because this is our first baby, but my thought process was why spend so much money, the idea and memories will be great but it all depends on what head space you are in. Do what’s best for you and don’t feel guilty or obligated to have something to please or satisfy anyone else. I’m doing a small lunch with close family to celebrate the occasion but I feel so much relief of not having one, not having expectations and the fear of disappointment. Sending you all the best!!