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Coparenting guilt

Anyone who co parents, do you feel like when dad has baby ur just living a double life? When her dad has her for the night I’ll make the most of it and meet friends or family or something if the sort depending on how I’m feeling and I find it hard to jump into my own life. But when u get baby back u find it extremely difficult to get out of yourself mode and back into mum mode? I feel like I sit there for about 2 days really out do touch with what I’m doing and it makes me feel guilty to the point where I’ll just cry. I don’t know if I’m a bad mum for struggling to jumping into it straight away. I know I do physically but emotionally I struggle. I can only have her there 1x a weekend for a night because I miss her to much if it’s any longer but I also feel like it takes me the whole night to get into myself and my own life and then by the time I’ve done it I have her back with me and take forever to get into mum mode. Does anyone else feel like this? I think I’m massively beating myself up for something that’s probably really normal and I just need the reassurance that it’s not just me.

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I can only imagine how it must feel. I'm co parenting with my little ones dad but I'm not doing any over night stays until baby is alot older.

@Rhi I spoke to him after I posted this and told him I just don’t think I can do nights anymore. I’d rather have her every day and have him see her s few hours as much as he can but he was really angry with it. We ended really badly and I think I’m now starting to realise that I do just do everything he asks when it comes to our daughter because I don’t want to upset him even more but I feel like this is such a special time and even missing a night is hard rn

@olivia baby is still young so don’t beat yourself up too much when she is older you will find your own groove again. I would use your free time to sleeeeep!!

I co parent my eldest. I must admit I miss her when she goes to her dad's. We do have a good relationship we spent her birthday together but we both miss her when we don't have her. Your baby is going to grow up thinking this is normal. My daughter was 4 and asked lots of questions and having to tell her together broke her heart. It's not easy whatever stage your baby child is. As long as they are happy, that is what matters.. your baby is going to be happy regardless.

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