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First time mums

Feeling really anxious about all the changes

I'm nearing the end of my first pregnancy and I'm scared about everything changing. I don't feel scared about labour or having a baby. I think I'm going to be good with both of these. I have lots of experience with babies so this change is one I'm confident with.

However, I'm anxious that I'm finishing work soon and it's been a huge part of my identity for so long that I'm already feeling lost.

Also, I love my man and our relationship up until pregnancy made me really happy. We travelled together a lot and went on lots of date nights. We've discussed getting married but he hasn't popped the question yet.

Since getting pregnant I've been poorly most of the time with one thing or another which has obviously changed what we've been able to do together as a couple. I'm confident he's happy we're having a baby (it was planned) but, I think all he's seeing at the moment is effort. He's busy at work and we've had a lot to do around the house and I'm ill a lot so I'm limited in what I can do. I worry that we won't get back to what we were and know the dynamic is bound to change between us as we become parents too but I really want it to bring us closer and it seemed to be doing until a couple of months ago. Now I feel like he's less interested in me and baby and it scares me.

It could just be my hormones making me emotional and over think but, he seems more interested in reading twitter when we're together than talking to me. I know that's what he does to relax but it's at least 90% of his time when he's not at work or sleeping. Unless we're having to 'put effort' into preparing things for baby's arrival.

I need some rational or supportive thoughts ladies because I'm scared that everything is changing and I'm feeling lost.