Vagina too tight to push out baby

I’m in the same boat. I haven’t had much either, I asked my friend who’s a obgyn she says it will stretch on its own… I don’t intend to do anything more uncomfortable than I already am currently .. hoping for the best 🙏🏼

Right but a lot of people tear as well so I’m wondering if maybe I stretch it out a bit beforehand I will be less likely to tear. I’m not getting the pain meds & I’m scared of feeling a tear down there 🫣

You can try doing perineal massages for the tearing. One of my friends who gave birth a couple months ago told me about it.. I looked at YouTube videos and will start this week as I’m 35 weeks.. very scared also as I’m a first time mum as well 😟

Well me and my husband have semi regular sex and it’s still a little painful and uncomfortable. I read that it come with being pregnant, hormones, increased blow flow etc. The way I look at it is it’s practice because I’m pretty sure baby is gonna hurt a lot more than a big penis so I literally breathe through it lol. Me and hubby have been doing the perineal massages also. Plus there are a lot of benefits to having sex. I would keep having more sex to get use to it, practice breathing techniques and let it get stretched out more. Also look up the benefits as well. Good luck 👍🏾

Do perineal massages. Right now it is sensitive and most likely puffy too from increased flood flow. When you start having contractions and baby moves down, you will stretch.

Alright, I may as well be blunt. This will be my third vaginal delivery without an epidural. My first was 9Ibs 5.1oz and my second was 7Ibs 13oz. So, I have definitely been through it.

Each pregnancy I almost completely stop having sex during the third trimester because it hurts, it's awkward and my husband doesn't mind too much because the pregnancy is a bit of a turn off for him. I would also describe it as feeling too sensitive and too tight. However I barely tore with either baby and honestly with all the natural endorphins pushing them out was fine, absolutely crazy but it is actually my favorite part. I think its because I feel like I have much more control over it. Pushing out the baby feels intuitive to me and I feel more in control where as waiting for my cervix to dilate I struggle with feeling trapped and out of control of the process though that could just be me or because I had to have pitocin both times.

Now I don't recommend using sex as a way to prepare because... (continued below)

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... because in my experience doing that is just unpleasant for everyone. I do strongly recommend regular perineal massage. Also, if it is something you are comfortable with, combining perineal massage with masterbation possibly with a toy. There is no pressure to rush or please someone else when you are solo. Or if you and your partner are interested in it, mutual masterbation or something similar. If you take away the pressure of needing to have traditional sex you guys can still have a great time together and orgasm can even help kickstart labour if your body is ready.

In labour, mineral oil and warm compresses are very helpful. Also, I don't know from experience but I have definitely read you are more likely to tear with an epidural because you can't properly feel what you are doing. So, it interferes with the natural process. Also more likely to tear with pitocin because it makes stronger, longer, more frequent contractions.

That's all I can think of. Feel free to ask me anything.

Oh, I thought of one more thing. Practice your breathing while pushing when you poop. A lot of people hold their breath when having a bowel movement (especially when constipated) and it's a bad habit I recommend trying to break before you have to push a big ol' baby out.

I wasn't able to have sex majority of my pregnancy due to placenta issues. Thankfully they resolved a few weeks ago however we still haven't had often sex. When we did earlier today (first time in a while) I also felt very sensitive and at times it was a little painful. I don't think sex will stretch you, however my OB said sex in later pregnancy is encouraged if possible because the semen helps soften your cervix to help it dilate easier during labor.

thank you so much for taking the time to write this advice I really appreciate it. This is actually not my first child but my first ended up being a Csection. I agree that I enjoyed the pushing part of labor much more than the dilating. But I never actually had to feel the sensation of the baby coming out and stretching the vagina so that’s what I am so nervous about this time since it’s the only part I never experienced. Most people I’ve heard say the contractions are the worst part of labor anyways but I’m more scared the actual birth part will be bad or painful. I think I will try the perinatal massage and it’s also good to hear that without the epidural I’ll be better off.

Start drinking raspberry leaf tea, I mix mine iced with cranberry juice and pineapple juice. Eat dates daily, I mix mine in with smoothies and also eat them with peanut butter. Insert an evening primrose oil capsule in your vagina at night before bed, you can also take one a day orally in addition. Do perineal massage, and when the time comes don’t push on your back! Look into alternatives pushing positions, that work with gravity and help your body as opposed to work against your body. I would also learn breathing techniques and wait for your body to tell you to push as opposed to just pushing once you reach 10 centimeters. Doing all of this will definitely help out in regards to minimizing any tearing 💗