After 2 years of trying… Here we go… worried about loss

So, I’m pregnant! But I’m 40 and we tried to conceive naturally for 2 years, “unexplained infertility” despite of having a 13 year old… my first pregnancy was unexpected and totally easy but being a single mom was very hard.

Years later I found an amazing husband, we were so ready, everything “looked good” to add a little sibling but we just never got pregnant. Then, 3 days after I turned 40 we did a cycle of IUI knowing the odds were against us, after two negative home urine tests the blood tests came out positive!!! So I actually did get pregnant!! 5 weeks tomorrow.

However, It’s been such a roller coaster that I don’t feel confident enough to be happy. I’m worried about chromosomal abnormalities or miscarriage. I’m worried about losing my baby and spending a couple years trying again or realizing I will have to give up. I thought this miracle would make me immensely happy but it has brought me so much anxiety that’s hard to live day by day…

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I know you wrote this about three weeks ago but I wanted to ask how you are doing? 💗

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🥹💟 Congratulations on your wonderful miracle baby! The mix of emotions you’re feeling make SO much sense. Give yourself room to fear and to hope and to just do what you know to do without letting anxiety consume you.

Do you have an OB or midwives that you trust? I’m sure doctors will be watching you closely, which is a relief. I’ll be praying for you. In the meantime, feel free to keep voicing your concerns here.

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