Do you have the same surname as your child?

My partner and I aren't married and our little boy has his surname. We have no intention of getting married and like you we are putting our money into other things which we think are more important. We are committed to each other and don't see marriage as a necessary. However having a baby has kinda made me want to have the same surname whereas it didn't bother me in the beginning. It doesn't bother me too much yet but he's still only tiny so we'll see how I feel the older he gets

I'm married but kept my surname. Our son has a double-barrelled surname. It's just easier to travel if the kid has both surnames. Could not imagine him having only my husband's surname... They rarely ask for a letter of consent

A wedding can be as cheap as £155 in at a registry, but saying that I do not yet have the same name as my child and partner but I will be changing mine soon after our wedding. You can also double barrel it

As others have stated, probably just easier to have the same surname.
But there are plenty of options.
Double barrel childrens names.
Double barrel yours.
Change your name to theirs.
Choose a completely different family name, all of this can be done by deed poll rather than marriage.
Or get married.
I doubt you'd need to change your surname if you were married and had a marriage certificate with you etc.

I've just got engaged and we're planning a wedding for 12 people for 4000

And that's full costs, even that can be expensive for some - but your standard typical registry office can be under 1000 if all costs are considered

My partner and I are not married and we gave our son both of our surnames, first dad’s then mine. It will be easier when travelling and I like the idea that he has both our names.

Same, but I’ve literally never though about it. Doesn’t bother me, only the one time I travelled without him.

My two babies have a double barrelled surname… as i wanted them to have my surname even if I am married or not.

I added husband's surname to mine, and baby girl has both surnames so husband is the odd one out 😁
(He already has a super long name, or would join us!)

I dont have the surname as my daughter. I’m no longer with her dad and it doesn’t bother me. I’ve since moved on and married and haven’t changed my surname either. My husband and I don’t have children’s together yet but if we do we will probably double barrel it.

Think it’s what works best for you! As already stated getting married can cost less that £300.

Two witnesses and an outfit that’s on sale.

If it bothers you.. I’d either get married and change your name or double barrel yours…

I’ve had issues only once travelling with my daughter when they asked if I had her dad’s permission. That irritated me as we weren’t on good terms then. Should that occur again I’ll have a letter with his permission as we are on good terms now but it’s the reality of it. If you have a child with someone- official institutions will like to know where they are and get their permission regarding things especially if they are listed on the birth certificate.

I kept my maiden name and gave baby my surname as a middle name whilst baby has father’s surname.
I haven’t travelled without the dad with baby and think it’s crazy that we could be challenged …

We've been together 15 years, bubba took dad's surname and it made me feel really left out so I changed my surname to theirs by deed poll x

It's your choice on what you want and how you feel about it. I'm married and I had this argument with my husband as he wanted me to take his surname. I said no, as I don't believe in losing my identity. I use double barreled professionally, but legally, I'm still my maiden name.
Daughter has father's surname but she has my surname as a middle name, and I made it explicitly clear that all our children will have my surname as a middle name.
I'd ignore what other people think. It's the same as parenting advice you get given. Take it with a pinch of salt. We shouldn't still be living in a world where men still believe their name comes first and that women, and children should take it automatically.
I've travelled without father, and weren't asked questions. But my daughter has practically my name as her middle name so I don't think there was any question as to who her mother is!

My son has double barrelled so both of our surnames. When we get married next year, we will both double barrel to match our son and all have the same surname.

We are not married and not even together but my son has his name. At the registrar , we were only asked for first name and middle name and the woman automatically put father’s name as his surname.

I'm married but didn't take my husbands surname, LO has both our surnames hyphenated and for her middle name my mums maiden name which she kept when she married my dad - wanted to make sure my mums culture was reflected too as our LO is mix of three cultures

@Charni jist jumped on.... I've recently been thinking about doing this also ...when I'm ready lol as both my kids have their dads name and yeah I duno if we'll ever afford to get married, I know it doesn't need to coat ££££ lop but it's all the organisation lool ! We can always get rings and feel married lol

Same but it's not a problem for me, I also have a different name from my mother and I don't think it matters.

I wasn’t married when we had our girl. Never been bothered by the idea of it after over 8 years together unmarried, a house, a kid, joint assets and everything.

After she was born though, I started to feel left out. I totally get it. We got called once “the XXs and Ms X”. Didn’t like that one bit. So we eloped, $50 wedding license whilst on holiday, no fuss no drama.

You are able to change your sir name without getting married. We plan to get married once kids are out the way as we want something to always look forward to, however have agreed I can take on his sir name before then if I wish because I feel funny about not sharing the same name as our children. Something about it feels odd when doing school applications etc 😂😂😂

I'm not married and we're giving our children both of our names. When we do get married we will also take both of our names... I remember my mum also always keeping her name as she was an artist and she felt it was her identity so it's completely if you want to or not! It's not easier, people won't judge (it's 2024), women shouldn't have to take a man's name if they don't want to 🤍 choose the one you like most or create a new one by putting them together 🙂