I’ve read the books and took the courses

My LO is 7 weeks old. I’ve read the books and took the courses on sleeping. Trying to follow sample schedules. I understand these things take time but im EXHAUSTED! Baby girl has colic and some reflux. She wakes up uncomfortable with gassy and when picked up she burp. Sometimes she wakes up pooping and in pain. There are times she will cry for no reason and checklist was completed. I use gas drops, tummy time, distraction. We’ve also been hospitalized2 times at 4 weeks for intense vomiting and choking. Seen lactation and dr. They did not put her on meds they suggested I pump before feeding because she is not getting hindmilk but foremilk only. I tried this and tried feeding her less but more often. She never seems content. Over the past 3 days I’ve tried feeding her more but every 4 hours. By the 3rd hour she’s screaming and wants more. I find myself dreading some of these days because I can not seem to satisfy my LO and I feel awful for her. No one else can soothe her but me as well… we’re going on a family trip this weekend and I know she’ll be irritable and fussy. I’m almost embarrassed and having anxiety that she’ll ruin others time

Does anyone have any tips or advice ?

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You’re definitely still learning your baby! Everyday just take it a day at a time because she’s communicating with you her needs. Try to burp before and after feeding, the after burp may take a few mins but pat until she burps. Swaddling helps with napping and keeping her comfortable while awake. It could soothe the crying a little bit more too. Make sure your diet is balanced as well to help with her nutrition and possible constipation as gassiness.

Please never be embarrassed when your baby cries in public or only wants you mommy. You are her safe space and warmest place for her. You are both welcome to be who you are as you grow and learn each other everyday 🫶🏾

I agree with the other comment!

I would not worry about what others will think your baby is still a newborn.

As for the reflux and gas, definitely try burping more. It sounds like something in your diet may be irritating your little one’s stomach. Personally I would try cutting some things out and seeing if it helps. Dairy, wheat and soy are the biggest ones. I would also give your baby a probiotic if you are not. I personally really like this brand. The strain in this is L. Reuteri which is THE best. This strain helps balance all the gut flora. This one also has vitamin d so you’re getting two birds with one stone so to speak. Breastfed babies need to be supplemented vitamin D too.

https://a.co/d/0HBjoo3

Also, just accept being exhausted it’s par for course during the newborn phase. Try and nap when baby naps.

I had another thought. Was baby born c section or vaginally? When a baby is born vaginally it triggers the baby’s gut flora going through the birth canal. If your baby was born c section they don’t have that exposure so there’s nothing to kick start the gut flora, which is even more reason to be doing a probiotic. I was born c section and was colic and had a lot of digestive issues growing up so that’s why I’ve done so much research on this!

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