How to tell my sister I'm pregnant?

Take her for something to eat and just say sister I am pregnant again

A friend at work has been through a miscarriage recently as well as a host of fertility issues and she said it was easier finding out by text when her best friend was pregnant as she could then process it and reply in her own time

Tell her in a way that gives her time to process by herself. There is literally nothing worse as someone experiencing infertility than hearing the news in person and having to react in a certain way. It SEEMS impersonal but a text is the kindest, ideally if you know she is home and has her partner nearby for emotional support.

Please don’t tell her in a public place. That’s an awful way to find out.
I struggled to conceive for over 10 years and my best friend has blocked tubes and can only have a baby via IVF. I had to break the news to my best friend that I’m pregnant about 10 weeks ago and was terrified having lived through the struggles and emotions myself, so I really do get where you’re coming from.
We have both spoken about this many times and text is the best way. Give her time to process and work through her emotions.
I’m sure she will be over the moon for you again however it doesn’t mean she won’t be sad for herself at the same time.

First of all can I say you're being an amazing sister for thinking about this. Just tell her maybe via a message. She can respond in her own time then. But i would also say it depends how you told her last time. She will be happy for you but maybe acknowledge that you're sorry as you know this is hard for her given her experience. X

Speaking from experience, a phone call or a text is best. This is what my sister did for me and it gave me time to process and honestly have a little cry without making her feel guilty xx

Defo phone or text. My mate told me in a restaurant and I couldn’t stop crying even though I was happy for her. Another sent a text and I cried for days as I was mid treatment but so much easier to pen a reply! Give her a few days or a week before you tell anyone else and make sure she knows she’s got the time to process it safely. Also, my advice would be to NOT go on about whether it was planned or not. It’s so irritating when others just get pregnant with ease and you can’t, I know it’s said to try and buffer things as a consolation but it makes it way worse. Just be straight and to the point, you always wanted two and that’s where you are at x

And for the love of God do not send the scan photo! I’ve had that happen too, it’s beyond heartbreaking 💔

Thank you all so much for your wonderful responses, this helps me massively. I wasn't sure if a text would be insensitive, but I can now see how it actually will give her a chance to process without having to fake a smile.
I think I will send her a thought out text message and tell her she can call me whenever she feels ready. I'll also make sure it's on an evening after work whilst her partner is at home, so she doesn't see it at work or whilst alone.

Thank you everyone xxx

Yes definitely when her partner is there. I hope it goes ok, and congratulations ❤️ xx

Definitely text, she can have a cry if she needs one and then give you a call when she's ready. I spent years TTC and it's always best to text, face to face is so hard because her face will say it all if she's upset. Also if she is upset please don't take it personally, she's sad for her and happy for you all at once x

Also, I’d explain why you’re sending the news in a text - defo not that a load of mums on peanut said to - but that you didn’t want to blindside her and force her to be a certain way when that might not be how she feels immediately xx

I have been in your situation exactly. My older sister has had 2 rounds of IVF due to having endometriosis & neither were successful. I have a disability so I didn't know if I'd be able to have children or not. When I found out I was pregnant, I was so scared of telling my sister, and unfortunately, I was right to feel that way. For the first year or so of my little boy's life, my relationship with my sister was very rocky & she didn't really have a relationship with my little boy either. My sister & my mum also didn't have a very good relationship when my little boy was born either, so that didn't help. Now that he is 2 & a toddler & can do & say more, my sister's relationship with him is a lot better thankfully, so I think it is just the baby stage that she found difficult to deal with.
I'm sure your sister will be just as happy for you this time & will love your new child as much as she loves your little boy. X

You are an amazing sister! God bless your heart and your sister through her struggles 🙏💙

You are such a lovely sister, and very thoughtful to wait until the evening when her partner is home. Congratulations to you! And good luck.
One of my bestfriends got pregnant super easily first time trying after stopping the pill and we had been trying for a few months and I was starting to freak out a bit and she texted me to tell me the news and I'm so so grateful she did. I felt like an awful awful friends but I'm glad I could text her lovely messages and she didn't see me cry and be devastated for myself at the time.
I'm now 13 weeks pregnant and we looooove love being pregnant at the same time. ☺️

My friend has been struggling for years, I’d arranged to meet her for food but I’d texted her the news before hand so she could have any reaction she needed in private. I knew she’d be happy for me which she was but I wanted to give her that space to grieve if she needed