Stingy Partner
So my partner and I been together for two years, when we first met I had my own apartment, full time job, and was kinda lonely.
We were messing around, he moved into my place and started paying half of everything. Eventually we found out I was pregnant and today we have a nine month old.
I currently work part-time, our bills are currently rent, light and daycare. Our bills come out to about $1,300 monthly.
I have the bills under my name and I get $550 food stamps + WIC, and sometimes I apply for assistance, which helps us with the light bill.
He makes 3,200 monthly plus sometimes bonuses of $200-500.
Most of my money I spend on Uber because unfortunately I don’t drive, and sometimes on us eating out.
Im upset because my partner doesn’t ever give me money for my nails or personal things. He has a over $35,000 saved up, and im happy for him, but I feel like he’s so stingy.
I sometimes get flower, but I don’t feel like its enough.
It’s not about the money, but about the fact that I thought we were supposed to be a team and lookout for each other.
I got a car I bought and it needs a piece that’s like $200 dollars. That car been sitting here for longer than two months because I haven’t been able to get the money.
To me it feels unbelievable that this man doesn’t step tf up. I feel like things shouldn’t be like this, but I also don’t want to be a bother.
Idk I feel like he’s not doing his part.
I clean and take care of our home and the baby, but im not sure Im getting what I need in return.
Please tell me if I’m wrong.
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I’m sorry you’re in this situation): that must be super frustrating! Have you told him how you feel? I know money talk can be so awkward but if you guys are sharing a life together then what’s his is yours and what’s yours is his in my opinion…. like when my mom passed about 2 years ago I got an unexpected 50k and anytime he needed anything I had no problem helping him, I even helped him with a down payment for a new car but like when I need help he helps me it goes back and forth.
I totally understand him wanting to keep money in a savings account but like he should be able to help you out with your car part so you aren’t having to spend probably what’s worth the car part in Ubers! Also if you pay for majority of the food then he should at least like say “hey go treat yourself to get your nails done” my boyfriend tries to do that anytime he has extra money and it makes me feel good. I would write down everything you feel and then sit down and have a conversation
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