Pregnant and scared
So I found out I'm pregnant. Was not planning it at all. I have a 11 month old and she'll be 16 months by the time baby is born. We did ivf the first time. The doctor said it might happen naturally for second baby, but didn't think this soon. My eggs weren't viable first time. So this is so new to me again. I'm so scared. I feel that I failed my daughter because it's happening so soon. I wanted more time with her. Idk how I'm going to handle 2 little ones and work and house. I'm so scared. Please tell me it'll be okay. Couldn't really sleep last night. I had a traumatic birth and im not ready to go through it again. I'll be 36 this year, so I guess it's good it's happening now and not later? My body is getting tired. Anyone else going through this? Or went through this?
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A gentle congratulations to you but just to tell you it’s going to be okay! It can be tough at times, rule of thumb: toddler first! She is the only one who is aware of whether or not she is first, simple as that! When I was six months postpartum, we decided to do it again! My son is 10 1/2 months and my daughter is 25 months now. I remember even watching her playing around in her room on the floor and she was a few months old thinking, she is such a big sister. 🥰So, would not trade this experience for the world. And trust me, people make their little comments that will just happen, but just know that you are strong, everything will fall into place. Everything will be OK.
thank you! It's made me feel better 😊
Congratulations. All will be well, you will figure it out and your daughter will grow up with a sibling very closely. My boys as 15 months apart, wasn’t planning it either, however I’m 37 now and I can’t see myself having an infant around 40. They’re now 25 months and 10. 5 months old, just like Tara and at this age it has become simpler because you focus on the older one and automatically the younger one follows. It is tough yes and with what you’re doing now, working, taking care of a child and a home, you got this
and if you can get some help take it; it’s true getting pregnant the second time is “easier”. I didn’t do IVF however I know someone else that did with her first and her children are 13 months apart and she’s doing just fine. My first was born with trauma and a birth injury gets three different therapies weekly and we’re doing good
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