MIL RANT
Hey ladies,
So just want to vent a bit as for the last 3 weeks my MIL has been staying with us to help me with the baby. Although I do very much appreciate her help and that I can get somethings done, but it comes with the price tag of spending too much time with her 1:1, zero privacy for my husband and I for intimacy, and seeing a 360 of all her bad habits. Also the one that irks me the most is she is starting get to comforable and is poking me about my weight, she had an unsolicited pep talk with me telling me to run more and drink more green juice. In the morning she’s told me that she would watch the baby while I run and made me a green tonic without me telling her I want to run or want to do a cleanse. When she had this pep talk with me I told her my situation is not one of an overeating problem, and I reminded her that I am only 4 months out of a very difficult c section delivery and breast feeding a baby. I feel like she is monitoring my intake as she also is now telling me that I shouldn’t eat late. Even though she’s built like a French bulldog, she is very weight and image obsessed so I feel like she’s scrutinizing my body at every turn instead of having compassion for me as a first time mom. I am doing Noom to shed the 30 lbs of baby weight and making progress but have not disclosed this to her so as to not have her butting in. I did mention to my husband her pep talk with me and he told me I look good and not to pay her any mind as dieting and weight loss has been an obsession of hers ever since he can remember as a child. I don’t want to make a rude outburst to her if she makes another comment about what I should be doing with regards to food or my body, but she’s getting on my last nerve. This sucks because we’ve always had a good relationship but now with the baby it’s too close for comfort 😣☹️
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I don’t have much Advice but I just want to say. YOU JUST HAD A BABY!! Take your time mama no matter what people say, right now it’s hard enough adjusting to the change of a new little person. Hope it gets better for you mama. 💕
It’s awful that she is putting so much pressure on you to exercise and loose weight. You need to heal and focus on your baby. My aunt was staying with my husband and I toward the end of my pregnancy and she was planning to stay with us when the baby arrived to help with cooking and cleaning. She was great, but I realized I wanted it to just be the three of us when the baby got here so we could bond as a family. I was honestly already tired of the lack of privacy as well. We ended up sharing our feelings with her. She was understanding and left on good terms before the baby arrived. Your mental health is important. I would maybe talk to her with your husband and thank her for all her help but it’s time for your family to bond and figure things out on your own. Do whatever is best for you!
I would have a conversation with her, tell her your feeling insecure about your body and she’s not helping with her comments. Tell her it took 9 months to make a baby and it’ll take 9 months to get all the weight off! I’m in the same situation with the breastfeeding these last 10 lbs won’t budge without my milk dropping so I’m being patient with myself
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