Struggling
I’m struggling atm I love my partner to bits but he can’t seem to kick the habit of drink/drugs, we’ve had a few domestics which have resulted in me being bruised and staff at work contacting police, but we’ve both been attacking each other so it’s not all him, but he says stuff to provoke me to hit him. He doesn’t know police are involved etc… he thinks it’s a follow up from a domestic 2/3 months ago.
We had an argument last night which got a bit physical he kept telling me to leave/get an Uber home and when I tried to he took my phone and kept it till the alarm went off this morning for work.
I honestly don’t know what to do anymore it’s effecting my mental health bad. His currently blocked on everything atm too.
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You need to leave him. That’s reactive abuse ❤️
Leave, things will only get worse, if he wanted to change he would! I know it’s difficult but once his out of your life you’ll be much happier x
The best you can do for yourself is to leave before it gets worse, and never look back. Also get some therapy to help you with all you've been through and work on yourself for your good and for a better election of partner in the future. You deserve better!! X
Imagine your friend told you what you just wrote here. What would you tell her to do?
I agree with that it sounds like the abuse on your part is ‘reactive abuse’ and therefore not comparable with his abuse at all.
Do you have kids together? If you can’t leave for your own sake, then please consider the fact that if children witness abuse then this is also a form of abuse so at least do it for them xx
Awww the best thing for you to do is walk away and find away to find yourself again and love yourself and realise you definitely deserve better than this life! You might love him but is love meant to be that way where you being hurt mentally and physically you need to think of yourself and get out there and re build life and be happy ❤️❤️
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