Why does my mother in law make these jokes?

Anytime I’m holding my baby and he cries she’ll say things like, “you made him cry”, “did you punch him?”, “did I hear you call him a spoiled little brat?” Every time she makes these comments, I always say, I would never or I don’t find that funny. A couple of weeks ago, my husband and I pulled her aside and said we don’t find those jokes funny. If she knows we don’t like it, why does she keep doing it? Does she secretly want me to be a bad mother? I don’t understand. Wouldn’t you want your grandchild to have a good mother? I don’t understand this logic.

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Not normal. If she keep going even if you told her not to, I would put some distance between your family and her. If she get surprised, just remind her you ve asked her to behave and she just trespass the boundaries. Those comments are mean as fuck. What is she gonna do when your lo will understand them ??? That's not ok

I’ve noticed this about older generations. Part of me feels like it’s someone who doesn’t know how to be affectionate or has a block when it comes to showing loving emotions. Which is super common especially if they themselves have grown up without receiving affection or loving words. I genuinely would view this as a reflection of her internal self. And it’s being projected. Many reasons for this I guess but it’s not to justify it, it’s horrible to hear this but maybe having some kind of understanding can help view it differently so it’s not being absorbed and affecting you as much. You could also try responding opposites like ‘he cry’s because he communicates with his mama’, ‘he needs comfort and love’ etc just to see if this changes anything. Her beliefs might come from something she was also told as a mother.

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