Postpartum s*x struggles
Sorry for long post! I need advice…
So my little girl is 5 months. I’ve had sex with my partner maybe 4 times max. It’s so painful for me and feel like our spark has gone. It’s either gonna make or break us at this point.
When I went for my check up the doctor told me there’s a lot of scar tissue and they’d given me extra stitches and basically made me tighter. (This was at 11 weeks pp) dr said if I couldn’t manage to have sex by the time I was 13 weeks pp that id get referred to a sexual clinic to potentially be cut. When I originally had stitches it wasn’t just one straight stitch. It was MM from being a full tear front to back. And the stitches went every where even on my butt cheek. I couldn’t sit down for 4 weeks.
I feel tighter both inside and out. It’s a struggle to get him in.
also being a SAHM I’m always doing something with or for the baby whilst he works. I don’t want to spend my time (while baby is sleeping) to do something that causes me pain
I had a lot of birth trauma. 2 3rd degree tears, episiotomy and ventouse.
How do I get the spark back and how can I fix myself to be able to have sex.
Has anyone gone through anything similar??
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I’m so sorry that the doctor stitched you to make you tighter. That should be illegal everywhere. Where did you give birth? I’ve only had one baby and had a first degree to barely a second degree year is how a nurse described it. I’m 6 months postpartum and just tried having sex and it was very uncomfortable so we stopped and that was slow and without lube. I also had intercourse at 8 weeks postpartum and maybe one other time around these same time and that wasn’t painful but the opening felt bigger. I guess it’s a good sign that I’m healing and my hormones are changing because I’m tighter but it is uncomfortable. Some people say it can take 8 months or just really depend when it will be okay again. Your experiences sound really traumatic though
it should! Sheffield x
I’m really glad your healing ❤️🩹
Yours sounds very similar to mine, it’s a pain I just can’t describe. And maybe try lube, We had and it made it better but not by much for me personally.
Thank you xx
Girl, I had a second-degree tear that was almost a third- degree tear. And I am seven months postpartum and the last time me and my partner had sex like a month ago afterwards and to this day when I sit down sometimes I feel pain and when I walk around sometimes I feel pain like it feels like I’m cut in that same kind of area so I requested an appointment with my midwife to see if there’s something to do about it because I want to be intimate with my partner but it’s really hard to do so and even just walking and sitting hurts. So if I find out something helpful I will let you know.
oh I know the feeling!🥲 I can only hope that there’s something the midwife can do for you as it’s not enjoyable. I read somewhere aswell about the trauma. So when area is touched it brings back the painful memories rather than it actually being painful. Like mind over matter. I’ve tried to read things to look at it positively. I’m 9 months pp now and it’s got a lot better since this post. I think I just took a longer time to heal. I hope things get sorted for you girl xx
Thank you for that !! It gives me hope!
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