Romance topic

My husband just got a doctor's appointment I had scheduled moved up by 3 weeks! I guess as we get older the acts of service get less glamorous, but it's a big relief and I feel cared for. Nothing says "I want you alive and healthy" like helping out with medical stuff. 💘

My husband is probably the most romantic man, way more romantic than I am. For my birthday one year he literally made a choose your own adventure all with different handwritten letters and activities to choose from. He loves to give me handwritten stuff. I think with your SO just communicate with him how you show love and affection, and how you'd like it to be reciprocated

What my partner does for me has varied over time. He used to buy me flowers regularly but since moving and dealing with baby stuff a lot, the flowers have turned into doing all the heavy lifting, cooking me food often, going grocery shopping, massaging me, buying me treats etc.

I would communicate with your partner how you best receive love and come up with some ideas of romantic things to do together and maybe suggest you take turns planning a date night or something? Or maybe get one of those fun date idea scratch off books to get the romance or connection flowing again?

I’m sure if you word it like you feel like you guys are missing the romance lately rather than telling him what he can do better he might be more receptive?

I’m not saying you do that! I’m just saying I’ve learned from experience on trying to get an ex partner to be romantic that way and it didn’t work lol

So in the beginning my husband did chocolate an flowers in beginning after we got hitched, he still texts me morning love as he already at work an Im home with our child, one yr he got flowers, an cooked twice for me I prefer grill but he can only do grill once awhile
We do hold hands everytime we go out an about we makesure r daughter sees r love, we kiss everytime he leaves for work an when he returns home, we say I love u goodnight to each other when we can
Do u communicate with him? As well has he had a check up I've seen ads for me as they get older they get less an less romantic due to lack of energy of testerone or something like that

I tell my boyfriend all the time or at least I used to it’s exhausting having to tell him!!!!!!! He knows he just doesn’t do anything still……. I tell him he never ever plans date nights and I’ve begged him to plan a date night he always says it’s a money thing but there’s been plenty of time we’ve done stuff and “had the money” yet no date night in sight… I always have to be the one to make the first move and hold his hand in the car or he will not for the whole trip to point A to B. No text when I wake up when he’s at work. I’ve communicated to him and nothin

Damn I'm sorry your going thru that I would think it would be time to break up with him if u tried everything an nothing is working if u r ready to pull the plug

I’m so sorry!! That sounds awful! I’ve definitely experienced similar things and it’s definitely a problem and can be a sign of a bigger problem. I think it may be time to ask why he doesn’t do those things? Or potentially go see a couples therapist to help you both work through the rut you guys are in

Thank you ladies for hearing me out, it was nice to vent. 🤍 I’ll sleep on it and figure out what I want to do.

Goodluck with everything ❤️

Not a dang thing unfortunately... The most romantic thing he does is work and pay the credit card bill. I have to entertain and romance myself.

He makes me a tea 2-3* a night and cheese platter every night if he could but I told him only once a week I want a cheese platter lol I’m intermittent fasting and don’t wanna break that but I enjoy one w him once a week. He’ll clean up at night and then demand I sit there and watch a movie w him, he wants to spend time w me after kids are in bed. He looks forward to our date nights and books it himself, sometimes he organises a double date w his bestie and wife. We hold hands when we’re in the car I sit at the front. Kisses me on the forehead in the mornings before work. My love language is physical touch and quality time and his is acts of service and quality time….the affection I’ve been building up in him to get used to it, and he has over the years he’s gotten a lot better. He gave me a naked massage 2 nights ago …. Tell him you feel loved and appreciated when he does this and that, and you’ll like to see more of it. He sounds like he’s not putting in any effort at all though 😒