Routines

Please don’t feel you need to being doing what these influencers are doing. Half the time the video is an ad pushing some sort of tummy time toy, or an app to track cycles, or simply just filmed for a video. You’ll also notice these influencers are fully dolled up, which there’s no chance they’re done up to the nines 7 days a week from 8am-10pm. I’m with a 6 week old and we just go with the flow, there’s simply not enough time in a wake window to establish some sort of routine. As long as your baby is fed, clean and doesn’t spend all day on their back and in one room you’re all good. If you get time to flick through some black and white cards for eye tracking and a bit of tummy time to strengthen that neck then you’re doing brilliantly in my books x

following im in the exact same position with my little boy who is also similar age!

Following as also wondering this 😅

Please don’t be beating yourself up. 9 weeks is still so teeny ! They are changing loads With my first we didn’t start getting into a routine until 5 months 🤷‍♀️. Am planning on getting into something earlier this time (7 weeks) but with the knowledge that things will change quickly so it’ll have to be flexible. If you want to start laying the foundations then a good place to start is to try and start and finish your day at roughly the same time, getting fresh air / outside time during the day (preferably the morning if possible). Of an evening, keep lights/tv dimmed so baby knows it’s night time. Don’t feel bad about contact naps - believe me when I say they soon don’t want them and then you’ll miss them. You can “practice” putting baby down for naps but don’t be surprised if baby wakes up still wanting you - it’s natural x

Not at all, at this age they’re all over the place and no day is the same. If my baby doesn’t want to wake up he literally will not wake up, if he doesn’t want to feed he won’t feed so you can’t force it upon them and you shouldn’t, some days I’m absolutely knackered and I’m like meh if he wants to sleep longer than 2 hours imma let him and some days I’m like okay he’s slept long enough now 🤣 some days I’m out and it’s harder to have a routine then away. As long as they’re being fed, changed, encouraged to have naps when needed, cuddles & having some stimulation/play time then you’re doing great!

Firstly, no you are not a bad mam!! You are doing amazing and everyone is different, me and my 8 week old have no routine at all and i was thinking the same as you but after talking to a few people i have realised we are doing what is best for us and our lifestyle! Secondly, even though i sometimes do, dont judge yourself on what others are doing with their newborns, i need to practice what i preach! In my opinion you dont need a routine until you feel your baby is ready and it will benefit them and you

My baby is 7 weeks and we are the same. No routine following always he wants. I have noticed some patterns however nothing is set in stone and activities get moved around depending on his mood. Also during the day baby only contact naps, the moment I try to put him down he is awake.

Nearly 8 weeks old here, and no routine. It’s a huge adjustment without then adding to that any disappointment or frustration if we don’t stick to something I feel like I ‘should’ be doing! Baby eats when he likes, sleeps when he likes, and then we play (sensory toys/ tummy time etc) when he’s awake… if we’re not busy/ I remember!! In terms of sleep the only thing I really stick to is not making an effort to darken the room during the day time. He sleeps wherever he sleeps which is often in his bouncer! He comes to bed in an evening when I do and I pop him in the next to me - bedtime done 😂 You’re keeping a whole human alive, do it the way that suits you, that absolutely in no way makes you a bad mum! Each to their own honestly and if it works for some people then fantastic, but at this age they’re still so new so soak up those sleepy cuddles mama and try not to worry about what you ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’ be doing!

Just go with it. If I didn’t have a boy back in school I would deffo be going with it! They will set their own routine when they are ready. Ive had to do sort of a routine to make sure I can get out the house to take him and pick him up from school so she usually has a bottle at 7am and 2pm .. doing this has helped with having a 10am bottle too, and then after 2pm she will go till about 5/5:30 and then again at 8:30 and then a 2am feed . So just making sure she’s had those two bottles has helped with all the other timings. It’s only day 3 of him being back at school and she’s kept to those times and she’s in bed by 9/9:30 but don’t stress about a routine, I’m still going with it during the day like awake times and stuff she has different days where she sleeps a lot or she wakes up a lot, I just do whatever when she’s awake Cus that’s all different times!

You're definitely not a bad mum! My boy is 9 weeks old on Sunday and I follow his lead too. I don't track daytime sleep either. If he's tired, he'll sleep wherever he is...on me, on the sofa, on his playmat. i do have a next to me cot downstairs as well as he's already outgrown his moses basket, so if I get the urge to do something when he's napping I can put him in there. Routine will come when they're older and start to develop their circadian rhythm. Stick with trying to do a night time routine though as this will help. You're not doing anything wrong. Go with what works for you and your little one. I'm basically winging it every day 😂😊 x