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July 2022 Babies 🇦🇺

Mom friend problem Big Time

So I had the weirdest encounter today.
I was asked by a mom friend “how my drinking was going”.

Here’s the backstory:
I’ve invited this mum a couple of times to my house. Twice for lunch/brunch, and twice for arvo play date.
On the arvo play date I offered alcohol drinks and had 2 glasses of wine and she had vodka neat.
I explained to her I rarely drink, as with hormonal issues it doesn’t do me any good the next day, and my body just doesn’t like it mentally or physically.
It would be fair to say I would drink approx 8 times a year if that.
I would never exceed 2 drinks because I feel like death the next morning, and I have young children and like to be alert at all times.
But the thing is, I don’t actively avoid it, it just doesn’t occur to me to drink. I’m busy raising kids. However, I also don’t have a social life; and having this mum over made me feel so happy to have company and I thought to have a glass of something was a nice idea, especially since all our kids were entertaining each other, making space for adult conversation and a sit down.
Fast forward to this morning months after the last play date, and she asked me verbatim:
“How’s your drinking going”.
I asked “what drinking”?
She stuttered a bit and said, oh you know, how you are abstaining and trying to stay away because of your mental health and how it does no good for you, and are you succeeding?
Like what the actual eff!
What the hell do I do now!
I’m an alcoholic in her eyes obviously.
And if I try to explain it just looks weak and like a cover up.
Do all the mums think I’m an alcoholic now?
What do I do?