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How to tell your Asian parents that you’re pregnant without being married ?

As an Asian woman who is 23, I find it really difficult to break the news to my traditional Asian parents that I’m pregnant with my boyfriend. Me and my boyfriend (28years old) have only been together for 2 months and are on a very serious relationship ( we plan to marry in one year). When we found out we were stressed because it was unplanned and it was too early for us to have a baby. However, he took full responsibility and didn’t like the idea of abortion. He said that it was up to me and I decided to start a family with him. He promised to get me an engagement ring by the end of this year. Get married on a small ceremony then a big wedding after when we have enough money or when the baby can walk . Put a money deposit on a house which will be on my name. I believe him but I do need to see it in action before I can fully believe it.

Our relationship went well until I start to have hormone changes and mood swings, we fight a lot. We don’t understand each other and when I do communicate how I feel he thinks that I’m blaming him and he’s not good enough for me. I tried to explain, apologise, make the mood better. But every time we fight ( nearly every day) I feel like we loosing each other. He’s a very sensitive person and so am I. And when he make mean joke and I can’t take it he would blame it on me saying that I used to say it and u would laugh and says I’m too sensitive/ moody, maybe it’s because I’m pregnant. Am I over thinking ? or he’s acting out of line?

My parents met him before and even went to his house as I spend majority of time with him to start building our life together. However, I’m a singer and my mum knows it doesn’t look good for me to go to my man after my performance or not being single. She didn’t want me to rely on him and rely on myself. My parents believe that I can’t take care of myself enough to move outside of the house yet. They don’t trust my boyfriend to take care of me as he hasn’t prove to them he can.


I’m thinking the right time for me to tell them is in November / December as they are going holiday for a month and would be in a better mood to open up to.

I’m very scared that they will be disappointed in me even more and tell me to go live with my boyfriend. But I’m not sure if my boyfriend is reliable emotionally and financially yet.

When do you think is the right time to tell my parents and what would be your advice for me?