Child father spat on me during sex

Sex is about consent. If you don’t like something done to you that’s 100% fair, but it should have been a conversation before it was done so that he’d know how you felt about it.

Calling you dumb throughout the day is not okay.

that can be a kink for some people but i think he should have asked u before the session if it was ok. also calling u dumb is weird. you should talk to him about it

That’s not something you just decide to do- that’s a conversation. If my husband spat on me or called me dumb during sex I’d pop him lol

Happened to me once - the guy actually spit in my mouth….I’m still traumatized. Lol

Sounds a little toxic. Question; did you like it? The making you feel dumb or calling you dumb is definitely abusive. The spitting on face requires consent, I suggest just communicating your likes and your dislikes with him so he knows what to do and what not to do. Best of luck, you got this!

Omg how is that even a thought in someone’s head without having consent??

He was a total freak…I wasn’t even really experienced with people like that yet…ughhh so disgusting. You would never think that of him either….I have to show y’all a picture lol

I don’t mind a little spit tbh 🤷🏾‍♀️😂

Sounds like he doesn’t respect you at all. His loss, time to move on

Definitely should had asked you first before spitting or even name calling. It’s a kink for people but there needs to be consent first. You don’t just do shit because you want to.

I am here for it lol Yuck! I’m so sorry you experienced that.

no problem with that! It sounds like incognito wasn’t in on it though

Nowwwwww I believe it can be a kink because I sometimes have my husband spit in my mouth with consent butttttttttt idk if he where to randomly spit on me and call me dumb multiple times I would feel very degrading

no I felt degraded. He was really calling me dumb. We been on bad terms for some years then he decided to pop up out the blu. I did allow him over when he text. When I came down stairs to open the door he ask for a hug, when we hug he started to kiss on me and finger me. It felt good. I know he knows good. He has a whole girlfriend but I was horny. Sex was cool until he start getting rough telling me to get on my knees. Suck him up how I use to

For the record he spat on my face not in the mouth then he did it again

If it was in my mouth I probably would have been ok with it but on my face felt like an insult

I believe he really does hate me and I need to leave him alone. He show me numerous time that he don't want to be my child life and I keep trying to force it, but I'm stressing myself out n going crazy.

Sorry girl. You'll let go when you're ready. Some men are users and they only know how to take. They leave us feeling empty and confused after. I've been there before numerous times. It's never easy letting go. I'm going to send out a little prayer that The situation turns itself around. One more thing, therapy has really helped me and I let everyone know. If you're not linked to mental health services I highly recommend it. Xoxo keep your head up.

Um that’s a convo you have before you spit on someone…. I’ve had a guy ask me to spit on him… and in his mouth… I personally denied as I’m not into that…
If he didn’t ask .. then… idk 🤷🏻‍♀️ he could be a lil freaky or just hate you…

yeah but for some reason I have to give consent because if he where to do so randomly new crazy shit especially like that I would probably slap his ass so hard lmao 🤣

If you have gut feelings that he is disrespecting you - then on some fucked level I find that sadistic. Always go with your inner voice. You don’t even need to have a firm understanding of why you feel that way, if the feeling is there I would not entertain him anymore.

I wouldn't say he hates you, I'd say that's a porn thing he's recreating and be SO upset. I can't speak for how he actually feels, but it's not loving. I'm sorry he was name calling, that's not on either x

Only thing that should be getting spat on in sex is his dick 😂

But in all seriousness, this is not ok without consent. I’ve had several guys do the dominant/degrading kink to me without getting consent and it really doesn’t feel nice. Leaves you feeling really low. I think they think they can do it to test the waters and if you don’t say anything they take that to mean you like it and they keep doing it 🤦‍♀️

If you want to sleep with him again you need to establish first that you don’t enjoy that/don’t want to do it. And if he doesn’t respect you then don’t sleep with him again.

Either a kink or doesn't respect you

I can do the kinky stuff… but had a similar experience with an ex who decided that the sex we had as exes was the best time to slap my tits, and also slap my face 😀 I was completely revolted by him after that and just stopped talking to him. It made me cry and he apologised but I know he was just angry at me for breaking up in the first place

That’s degrading especially if you didn’t give your permission he would have got it right back

I definitely try to spit right back on him he kept moving his face. He's real tall compared to me

Oh that’s interesting him moving suggests he wouldn’t like it so then why would he do it to you?

He does hate you sis, it’s not a kink to him and he’s been calling you dumb all night! Sis stand up

Self-awareness check: How do you feel about yourself in this situation? How did you end up in this situation? How can you prevent this going forward? It’s easy to judge others, but in the end what matters is to be focused on our own power to have the life we desire.

I think it's some sort of kink. I don't know if it was just sex or you guys are getting back together, but it's really up to how you feel about it. If you didn't like it just tell him. If he does it again after you tell him not to don't have sex with him anymore

So I would have a conversation with him and ask him why he did it. Go from there but the fact that u think he hates you says something. Does he not show you he loves you or tell you he loves you? If you feel it was done in a disrespectful way you might be right and if that’s the case leave him. You don’t deserve to be treated like that. You shouldn’t have to question his love for you. You should already know he loves you.

I felt degraded, I allow him to come over to see if he really wanted to talk or was it just sex, turns out he wanted sex. I just need to release him, he shows no interest in our kid. I want my child to have a father, he even said it out of his own mouth that night that I can't force a child on him that he already said he doesn't want nothing to do with. So I need to leave him alone at all costs. It just hurt knowing he has other kids that he take care of and not ours. He have his other kids and post them but when it comes to mine he treat us like shit. What I suppose to tell my child when they get older? I'm not going to lie to them. I want to be brutally honest and some people tell me no. I don't want to be one of those moms that says that your dad just have a problem bullshit. I want to tell my child that that dad told me to abort you, you not his no matter what they dna 🧬 test has proven.

he doesn't love me, I would think he care for me since I had carry his child. He were never an item in the past. I was his side piece up until I got pregnant

I’m so sorry that’s a terrible feeling! You deserve so much better. Leave him in the dust where he belongs.

I'm sorry you're going through this but if my bd would say he doesn't want to do anything with my child, not to force the baby on him, etc. while he takes care of his other children, then sure as hell he would never come near me or my child ... I would have so much hate for the person who helped create such a beautiful thing and then turn their back on him like he was nothing, wanting me to get an abortion, that no sex drive would make me being intimate with that person ever again!

He is a disgusting person by the sound of it. And you will be better off without him in your life. So is your child. Your baby doesn't need someone like him in their life, who will show up whenever he wants to and not when the child needs him to. You are already managing it on your own. You ARE strong mama! Keep it up!!! 💙 And cut him out. 💙💙

He’s using you stop having sex with him

It’s a thing, some people like being spit on during sex! So I don’t think that it means that he hates you he’s just into some weird shit 🫣
But it shouldn’t have been done if you didn’t talk about and agreed to it before hand.

Fuck no, I've ditched guys for way less!

poor choice I wanted to see will he cheat on his girl which he did. He the type of guy that's going always cheat.

Hey incognito, I hope you are finding some support in this chat. Have you thought about engaging professional support? You asked, what am I supposed to tell my child. I have no idea. I can share though what a friend of mine who didn’t have a father growing up for medical reasons on the father side, he shared the best thing his mom can do for him is to get her ‘shit together’ and one step is to engage the help of a psychologist to establish healthy behavioral patterns for herself and for her child going forward. It hard to change without help.