Baby name arguments with ex

I’d absolutely block the mom it’s non of her business, no advice on anything else though as I feel like you should do what you think is right, if you want to name YOUR baby then go ahead

thank you! I'm not really sure why I posted but I'm so stressed and All it has been is constant arguments! I want to name my baby what I like. I'll be the one bringing her up on my own I don't understand why he thinks he can make any demands. He's already demanding to be at the birth and how things have gone I don't want to be anywhere near him 🙈🙈

I'm sorry but no abusive man who wants nothing to do with the baby unless it's done his way gets the right to name the baby and take full credit for first and last names. Nuh uh, not in my books. Girl you block that damn mother of his, you name that baby whatever name you want and you give that baby your last name! Besides, he ain't gonna show up for the birth certificate submissions and stuff to even have a say so don't stress. Make sure you have a close relative or friend that's on your side in your corner with you during the birth and everything, just in case he tries to make an appearance.
Also I'm assuming he's an ex BF not husband so don't even feel like you are obligated to give that baby girl his last name when y'all were never married, he don't deserve that privilege. 😒

thank you I appreciate it! We only dated for a few months and as soon as I saw the red flags I ran! I'm nearly 30 now I ain't dealing with that! Too old and wise to it all... alot of family and friends are so angry with him because they are seeing the stress he's causing me. I'm a senior at my work place and currently working 220+ hour months with 14-15 overnight shifts on top justbto ensure my baby has everything she needs which is hard enough after only buying my first house 4 months ago and still trying to sort that! He knows all of this but is just piling his load onto me aswell😔 its my first baby (I have had a previous loss) and scares in this pregnancy and all he could do was talk about him! His mother will always defend him because she believes every one of his lies!

Girl, you are AMAZING!!!
What you are doing all by yourself for that baby is incredible!!!
I am so proud of you 🥹❤️

Congratulations on that house!

Sounds like him and his mother are pieces of 💩's
I'm sorry you had to go through all of that with him and his family but you will be getting 1 beautiful blessing out of it all. I'm sure some days are hard and tiring but you've got this, all those long days and extra hours are counting and it shows, you've come so far all on your own!
All I can say is you are moving mountains girl and keep at it! That baby girl has a warrior for a mom ❤️

I want your amazing triumphs to motivate me right now but today I have just felt like utter crap, anything I eat makes me nauseous and my stomach sloshy, this baby is not happy with food today 😢
I'm 9 weeks 3 days and today makes only the 2nd time of having all day nausea in this whole first trimester so far which is great but man does it ruin your whole day 😭
You be strong for the both of us 💪🏻

100% your last name!!!!

oh hell no. Mom gets the say in the baby’s name especially in a situation like this. Your baby should have your last name, period. I stand by that unless someone is married and has changed their name. You shouldn’t be driving after having a baby so if he can’t figure out a way to see his child then that’s his problem. If he’s not going to contribute financially or emotionally treating the mother of his child like a human being than he doesn’t deserve to be in your baby’s life.

honestly that meant so much to me thank you I really appreciate it. He's been making me feel so low about myself when I'm trying my hardest 😔
And I feel you there for the first 14 weeks I had HG and I counted down the minutes to going to sleep everyday because it was the only time I wasn't nauseous. The only thing that got me through was thinking it will all end soon (the sickness) and its all worth it in the end! Nausea is the worst thing ever and I hope it eases off for you ❤️

thank you. I just needed someone to tell me I wasn't wrong for picking her name myself.
Theres alot of jealousy between his mum and my mum. My mum lives very local to me and they live a 30 min drive away neither of them drive. My mums been coming round decorating the nursery and building the furniture with me. She is also going to be my childcare for when I return back to work. They despise all this involvement my mum is going to have. But again. I drive past my mum to get to my workplace which is only 5 minutes from me. But they fully expect me to go other side of town during bad traffic so she can babysit for me 🤦‍♀️ theres so many arguments over situations that are a year away yet 🤦‍♀️🤣

Your last name for definite! You chose the first name yourself. He’s literally refusing to provide and refusing to see baby unless you make all the effort. Why give him such a big input when he can’t even manage the basics.

these were my thoughts but him and his mum seem to think differently. His brother and stepdad fully agree with me and think he's being a dickhead. But I can't be bothered with all the arguments anymore x

If they can’t grow up and leave the drama out of it they don’t have to be involved😅 pick her name & give her your last name! He hasn’t proven worthy of even his last name being in her name at all. Besides your relationship with your mom is way more important than your relationship with his especially if she acts childish.