Tattoo the kids but not me?

I think it's fine . It's his body his choice.

Some people think tattooing the name of their SO is like bad karma - like it will lead to a breakup.

Me personally considering we made the kids together I’d hope he would also get my name tatted if not I would feel some type of way. My man opted to get a tattoo with both me and our sons name which I think is sweet

I wouldn’t be too hurt about it. My husband and I are getting something that represents our love/relationship rather than getting each other names. In my case, it’s also weird as our first born has the same name as my husband. lmao. We’re also getting matching tattoos of our kids names in my language (Khmer/Cambodian).

I forgot to mention one big thing he said. “Well kids are forever”

Yeaaaa that’s a very messed up thing to say to the mother of your children..

He’s completely right by saying kids are forever. You can separate in the future, hopefully not but it can happen and then he’ll be stuck with your name on his body. His kids will always be apart of him. I’d absolutely tattoo my daughter’s name or something but not my husband! His body his choice, simple as that

I personally wouldn’t be offended at all. You never know what is going to happen in the future. I’d never get my husbands name tattoo’d to me. I love him and hope we are together forever but you just never know

Ok that “forever” comment!! I was kinda on the fence but now I’m like 🚩

I would be thrilled. Your kids will always be your kids. I would legitimately be pissed AF if my husband tattooed my name on him. So tacky.

Although it is hurtful it is also true. You never know what might happen in the future with you guys but the kids will always be his kids.

im with @Jill where i think its bad luck to get your spouses name tattooed on you. im planning on getting a tattoo to represent my kids, but not a tattoo with my husbands name/initial. my kids will always be my kids, a spouse is not your DNA.

Thanks guys. I guess this hurts because I never questioned whether our marriage would last and to hear this is shocking. I’m currently pregnant with our third.

I'm not a tattoos person, but I'd say there are a lot of things I'd do for my kids but not my spouse. I wouldn't be a fan of his comment, though.

I see nothing wrong with that. I wouldn't want anyone's face tatted on me but if i did it would be my kids. Never a partner or spouse lol. His comment would kinda annoy me too but I mean he isn't wrong.

Not trying to be mean or anything but relationships come and go however your children are always your children so I think it's a perfectly normal train of thought. My husband thinks the same way so I understand this. I love my husband's name and wanted his name on me but he said it was weird because he doesn't own me or want his name on me just in case we ever were to break up or something were to happen to him. We opted for a tattoo that is different but can be completed by us holding hands. I feel like he could have said it nicer to you though.

It’s truly not even about the tattoo, it’s about his explanation for it that throws me off

My ex and I were together for 15 years. Extremely long time for two people who met at 17. He tattooed my name on his neck. His neck. Guess what. We aren’t together anymore and he’s walking around with my name on his neck. I told him when he got it that he was an idiot.

I’m getting something done for my kids and my partner but I’d never get a name or portrait (portrait applies to anyone though) and that’s just my personal preference. Kids are forever, they’ll always be apart of you. Sadly your partner may not and it’s a big regret to either constantly see that reminder of those times or not be able to move on with life being stuck with someone else’s name/face. Plus laser removal is expensive and painful. I don’t think either is wrong for how you’re both feeling. He could’ve been kinder in his comments though

I get it his children are for life that’s not to say you aren’t but my point is there’s always a chance of a break up with your partner. With kids it’s different

When I was with my ex partner I had his name tattooed on my wrist then we split so I had it covered, I wouldn't get names other then children's name. When my baby is born I'm getting a tattoo of his name and then two hearts that go into eachother representing noah and his dad but not actually having Noah's dad's name xx

I agree with him. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t think it’ll last, it’s just realistic. Shit happens sometimes. It’s like people getting a prenup, doesn’t mean you’re planning to divorce. But 50% of couples do 🤷🏽‍♀️

he’s not wrong, even if it’s uncomfortable to hear

Sounds like he isn't confident that either of you won't leave/divorce.

My husband and I have each other tattooed, wife comes first! I’d be livid if my husband didn’t want me tattooed, I would think he would not want me forever. Men need to commit to there wives first. We’re not just a vessel to carry children

It's pooosible that you aren't forever. The kids are. I would probably feel some type of way if I were in that situation though. Like what?! How could you even think we're not forever?! To answer your question I would be hurt

I have tons of tattoos & I would never ever get a name. If I had a good idea to represent my husband I would get something but I don’t. & I would never let him tattoo my name that’s just bad luck. I think it’s overthinking

It’s taboo to tattoo significant others names like a bad omen. He also kind of has a point you could wake up tomorrow and decide you don’t wanna be with him anymore and now he’s got your name on him

@Jaz what if you decide you don’t want to be with him one day? It can happen?

I wouldn’t have married if I thought I’d leave.