Relationship strain

I have been with my husband for 10 1/2 years. Last night, I went to kiss my husband good night and tell him that I love him, the same routine that I have done every night since we have been together. Normally, he would tell me he loves me too but last night he didn’t. Instead he just said, “uh huh.” When I questioned him, he went into this rant about how we have no excitement and that we are just living in the same house and the only mutual thing we share is our son. I know he was disappointed last night that we didn’t have sex but I didn’t feel it warranted that response. I wanted to have sex but I am just so tired all the time and really aching all over at the moment. Even writing this now, I feel like they are lame excuses. I am really struggling mentally. There are several points in the day where I feel like my husband and son would be better off if I left them as I feel like I am not good enough. On the same hand, the thought of losing them both makes me feel a deep sadness! Trying to fight these gremlins is so tiring and definitely does not make me crave excitement. I know I need to talk to my husband, just so scared he won’t understand.

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You don't owe your husband sex. Not because your are married you have to give sex at any cost. Nop. Also if he react this way because you didn't want to have sex that's not ok. He should take things out of your plate to help you not being so exhausted. Maybe you would be more in the mood to have sex. (Maybe not. In any ways he should take things out of your plate!). Maybe he is tired of the routine and that would be valid. But it's his responsibility to tell you whenever he feels something is wrong in your relationship. Not yours to guess wtf is happening.

Wow those are some tough feelings. You're allowed to be tired or not feel up to things without it taking away love from you. Why would you feel like you aren't good enough? If you're taking care of your son, physically mentally and emotionally and providing for him then there's no better person for him. I hope that you have someone professional in dealing with these things to help you navigate your own feelings and thoughts as they would be the best to respond with clarity. But just as a mom - my husband and I struggle as a couple but have also discussed this season of our lives is deeply devoted to young kids and won't always be this way. Helps to be on the same page even if it's a tough chapter.

You should feel that you HAVE to have sex with him. Acting this way from his part is really low and it’s honestly obnoxious. I told my husband that I didn’t want to have sex yesterday and he said it’s fine no problem, I love you. 🤷🏻‍♀️ he is acting like a little spoiled kid

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