My husband said being a father is so easy..

I think motherhood if different/difficult to being a father, no matter how involved or hands on they are . it just is. Thats how I see it anyway, my other half made the comment oh it’s not that hard why you complaining all you do is watch the baby.. sooooo I took myself on a girly trip for 4 nights, he had the kids , the housework , the cooking, the school run, the after school activities , the cleaning , the dog for 4 short days. I’ve not heard that comment since 😂👀

yeah I agree. My husband is doing most of the childcare and housework now because I’ve been so sick this pregnancy. He says he doesn’t find it hard. However a lot of the things that I would normally do, like swapping clothes that are too small for the toddler, buying new stuff, folding the laundry etc is not being done. He does the bare minimum. I think they find it easier because they don’t have to think about all the other details that we do.

Fathers find it easy cause they do exactly how much they want to do and no more.

And mums do the rest.

and if we didn’t, house would be a mess, kids would be a mess, health care would not be taken care of, school , everything 🙄

My husband is a very hands on dad and I do think he has it as hard as I do but in a different way. My husband has come to me in literal tears because he misses our kids. He’s our provider. I get to stay home every day with our kids. I miss nothing, not one milestone. But he sees a lot of them over video because they happen when he is out working 50 hours each week. He sees them for a couple of hours after work and then on weekends. So I think I have it harder on the physical side of being the default parent, but emotionally I think he struggles more.

this!

I think if they were single dads who had to be both parents, they’d find it more difficult, but they definitely have it easier. They didn’t experience the body and hormonal changes we did. They don’t have to use their bodies to provide sustenance for them. They can be the most hands on, and still have it easier. Of course there are some who are different, just like everything else. I’d be willing to bet that your husband falls into the category of him getting the easy part.

That’s a tricky one. The first year or so it’s definitely harder for the mother but I think later it would balance out a bit as the load can be shared a bit more after breastfeeding and recovery and Postpartum depression. mysogeny can make it hard for dads to connect and participate and sexism makes moms feel more guilt for not taking on more. Depends I guess on the individual situation too.