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Do you ever have days where everything your husband does pisses you off?

Things that pissed me off, it felt like almost everyday this week was something! 1. He doesn’t take the trash out unless I ask or remind him despite that’s his responsibility. 2. He doesn’t normally take our kid out without me but insisted to take her out on Saturday morning and was going to take her out without giving her any breakfast, again I had to remind him like hey you gotta feed her first. He should know her routine by now. 3. He used a hot iron and left it on the kitchen counter with the wires hanging down. I freaked out because it’s a fucking hazard around our active kid (not the first time he has done this and definitely not the first time I’ve talked to him about it) 4. He piss with the toilet seat down I accidentally sat on the piss he didn’t clean up. Are these things minor and would you look over these things? Yeah maybe if it was done once or twice but would it still be a minor if it was done multiple times? We get into arguments because it gets to the point where I just get really frustrated so when I confront him about it yet again it’s done in a way where I have attitude, probably not the best state to communicate in I know but it just bothers me so much despite how many chats we’ve had that I’m not being heard. Let’s just say the argument is fresh, he will try his best to change these things and I will acknowledge them however he’ll go back to his old habits again 2 weeks later. I just don’t understand.

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I clicked yes before I read your whole post. I may change my answer because my hubs doesn't piss me off on that level. Those things aren't exactly small... especially the hot iron. The piss on the toilet seat is gross. Mine always cleans up his mess. If anything, I'm the one that needs to be reminded to do things. Last, but not least... feeding a child is something that should come to mind naturally. If they refuse (like my toddler) just pack something to go. In shorter terms, you're rightfully pissed off.

@Morgan okay thank you for confirming these things aren’t small because he made me feel like these things are small and says I’m always being a bitch and complaining but the reality is if he took my issues with him seriously I wouldn’t have to repeat myself over and over and having to get frustrated with him.

No these things are not small at all. Mine will occasionally leave a kitchen knife too close to the edge of the kitchen worktop which I’ve asked him not to do so many times now, but he sits on the toilet so we don’t have that drama. Honestly if I spot something I call him back to fix it 😂🙈 it’s annoyed him enough that he’s started to change so might help yours? X

Mines not perfect but he does try!! I feel like I only have to mention it once and then he try’s really hard to do what I say- on occasion I will ask him to take the trash out because it’s full but most of the time he just notices now. The toilet seat I think it very inconsiderate and just rude. Leaving the hot iron on would be grounds for me fuming 😂 You are absolutely in the right to be pissed!!

Yeah but also I make mistakes too and I’d hate to be talked down to about them constantly. I try to remember that and be mindful

@Kirsten yep mine does that too, it sends me right off. I shall start doing this instead because I’ve always corrected it for him first and then confronted him about it but no more. He’s gonna learn the hard way.

@Emily oh to have a man who tries so hard like yours. I feel like I’m repeating myself a lot with mine and not only that but he goes back to his old habits as well so the cycle of repeating, getting frustrated with each other is on going

Honestly give it a go some men need to actually do the thing themselves to learn and can’t just have a discussion about it because they just assume you’ll always fix their mistake, fingers crossed it works for yours x

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