How do you go about getting a sperm donor?

Hi, Can anyone give me some ideas on how you go about getting a sperm donor? How does it all work? Do you go through the doctors, private?..

I've been wanting my second baby for 9 years now, but unfortunately, I haven't met a decent guy in a very long time.

I'm now nearly 37 and single mum to amazing 10 year boy, who really wants a little brother or sister. All i seem to think about is having another baby and turning the spare bedroom into a nursery. So I'm thinking about going for a sperm donor, but I'm so unsure where to even begin.

Any advice would be wonderful 😊

Thank you in advance

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What country are you in

UK, Staffordshire

Depends how you want to conceive. IVF clinics already have arrangements in place with most well-known sperm banks and staff who communicate with them: Cryos, Fairfax, LSB, etc,. If you go down the route of IVF, you must have secured and shipped in your donor material before beginning but probably not before a consultation, tests, scans - as you may want to check egg viability before buying sperm. There are other ways to conceive, using natural cycles and even door-to-door sperm delivery (liquid nitrogen containers) or even ‘professional sperm donors,’ (unregulated, potential safety risks). I assume you want to use a bank? YouTube, ChatGPT, London Sperm Bank are good places to start research. Anymore Qs - ask! 💖

Thank you 😊 How does door to door work?
I thought home insemination or IUI.
I currently just don't know where to begin to start my journey.
I don't know anyone who has gone down this route to ask advice at starting.
Some sites I've read says I need a clinic to have sperm sent to etc..

I'd love to start in the new year.

I didn’t know anyone, either. Lots of great documentaries on YouTube and might be worth emailing clinics/banks there are also larger and more specific networks for SMBC than on Peanut. Not sure on door-to-door but saw it in a documentary in which a lesbian couple had frozen material delivered. Welcome to add me. 🌈

I met my donor on a fb group which I can send you details of
It took me over 6 months to decide before even starting .
I had 2 kids from a past relationship so wouldn't have had help from a clinic

It took 3 months to conceive but then I miscarried,
1st month trying after the mc I conceived my daughter
I waited until she was 8 before deciding to try again and it took 4 months to conceive which resulted in a miscarriage waited 5 months before trying again as my cycle was all over and it took 3 months to conceive again and I had my youngest.
All done by insemination at home, didn't cost a penny and I'm in contact with donor so if we ever need medical info etc I can message him.
He's became a good friend who I talk to every few weeks

what was the name of the Facebook group?

I used an app called “just a baby”. There are also facebook groups online for it.

I bought through London soerm bank

Many choices , have friends that made different things. You can message me

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Tests

So I had a blood test at the drs bc I keep getting positive tests when the blood test was negative what could this mean? Hubby says the tests are negative and said he can’t see anything. Negative image down below.

Am I pregnant?

I lightly spotted almost 5 days ago, which is not common for me before my period.
My period was supposed to come today. I should have tested in the morning but its 5:30pm.
Is there a second line??

Anyone have this happen before?

We were not trying to conceive, used protection and had sex on week 2 of my cycle (accidentally on my peak ovulation day). Week 3 we had Flu A. Week 4 my period did not come (it’s very regular). I tested and it was negative (2 different brands).
What should have been week 2 of my next cycle (now 6 weeks post last period), I had light red/ pink spotting for one day when I wiped. The following week, I tested again, still negative, but this time almost all the dye was in the negative space, which I’ve never seen happen before. The area where it shows one horizontal line for negative and a plus sign for positive, the horizontal line was super faded at the 3 minute mark, and the negative vertical line in the next window was VERY dark. Now I’m on week 8 of all this, period did not show up yesterday. Nothing in my life has changed (no additional stress, no other illness, no changes in diet or exercise, etc).

Has anyone gone through this and NOT been pregnant? I’m super nervous as we thought we were done having kids.

PS. I know I should go get a blood test, does anyone know if urgent care will do that? I’m past being convinced by a pee test.

Help pls

I'm 7 weeks pp. Not had sex or even done anything but my tests have come back positive. I wouldnt test but had symptoms of pregnancy so I tested. What does this mean? Google says it should have been negative at this stage unless its a new pregnancy or bits of placenta has been left behind. I had a c section so 🤷‍♀️

Is it normal to test positive still? (Wouldn't usually do one)

Not the best pic and clearer in person. Is this normal? I've not had any sex since having my LO but I've had strong cravings, sense of smell is strong and my hair still hasnt started to fall out. Im 7 weeks pp so 🤷‍♀️ I wouldnt normally bother testing but with those symptoms that I never really have its like whats going on. Cravings for something very specific too and can only get from KFC now 😩 so its annoying

Can baby mamas be friends?

My son has an older brother from his biodad. Biodad has never had contact with my son. One thing lead to another though and the other child's mother and I got in contact and are planning a meeting for the boys. Biodad has no idea any of this has happened. Biodad also hasnt had contact with the other child in about 2 years. Just thoughts, opinions, anyone been through something similar?
Edit-Thank you all! Have definitely been feeling somewhat weird about it because we never met before but now know it can be a good thing definitely helps. I can't wait for them to meet. My son has been asking for a brother and I can now happily tell him he has one. That just happens to be 13. Im sorry for yall that fight/have issues with the other baby mamas. Sadly some women rather be stuck on the men, when the kid is the one who really matters. They're the ones that end up getting hurt and missing out.