I'm I wrong? What should I do?

My boyfriend and I are currently arguing. He randomly brought up a question about me ignoring his phone call on a specific day in June. He brought it up in such a strange way that I think it's bizarre that his bringing this up now. I already explained to him the reason why I ignored his calls that day was because, during those times from April to June, I found out he was cheating on me with multiple women. He kept questioning me about it and I got upset because to me it's extremely strange I am trying to heal from all thoseissueses and his questions are bringing up trauma as if he is looking for something. I asked him why he was asking me that and what triggered him to ask me he said because he wanted peace of mind and seems like I kept brushing off the question. Then he started questioning me about a letter that a high-school ex wrote to me in 2020 before I even met him. I explained to him that I had even forgotten about that letter I meant to throw it away but completely forgot. I went silent because to me the situation is very strange and he started saying this is what you always do you go silent. Haven't spoken to him because honestly I feel strange about the situation and telling myself this isn't normal I'm also in a very vulnerable state in my life Where I don't need unnecessary stress. I haven't spoken to him since yesterday I cooked food for him today so he can eat and he tells me if I want him to eat I need to talk to him and stop giving him attitude. Is this weird? Like can someone explain to me what's going on because I feel extremely confused and weird out. Should I end this relationship?

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He’s manipulating you, yes definitely end it. Wishing you all the best 🩷

I thought so too. This seems like a manipulation but for what purpose?

He might still be cheating

Sounds like he’s still got shit he’s hiding and trying to make you feel out of sorts/focused on other things to avoid you finding out tbh. Also he’s a grown fucking man. If he’s hungry he can get his own food. “If you want him to eat talk and lose the attitude” that alone right there is fucking disgusting and so manipulative. It’s not your job to make sure he eats. He cheated on you and this is his attitude? Please leave, this is just straight up toxic bs.

I feel like he is scoping out how you found out? Has this been discussed did he confirm this with you and you guys worked on it together? I feel like maybe he is cheating/looking to cheat and making up issues to justify his actions and get you to not look? Is he acting suspicious in other ways. He is definetly trying some kind of guilt manipulation to make you seem like a problem for ignoring him while he was cheating on you...like who wouldn't.. thats weird to me

If he was cheating before ... he wants to make sure you weren't doing the same. Some guys are jealous. .. strange that he is.. you all have kids or just bf and gf... cause he sounds like a jealous 22 year old. Guys don't like it when girls cheat. They get an ego about it . I'm surprised your cooking for him when he mad, something a mummy would do even if her kid mad at her. But if you can ignore calls for months.. means you guys aren't living together. So leave him is more peaceful unless there something you holding onto? Eg .. joint kids together, money, home, etc He sounds exhausting. Why he cheat?

@Aliyah Yeh honestly feels like I'm dating a 22-year-old old but his grown in his 30s. Yeah, his jealous because I do have a guy's friend. But I keep boundaries, I told him he has no right to question my behavior during that period. Things like this can make someone lose their mind. Imagine being married to someone you found out all those years you guys were dating this man was cheating on you the day he proposed to you he was out here talking to a bunch of girls and planning to meet up with them and all. I didn't ignore him for a month just that one day he kept blowing up my phone I was at a graduation and helping my friend set up the party. I found on around April and until like June he was still cheating I was traumatized and didn't want to speak to him....? Like even me talking about this is crazy

@Aliyah girl I know his too grown for me to be cooking for him and for him to even say that. I was disgusted but I'm glad he said that because woke me up. I normally always cook and feed anyone in my house that's just who I am but yeah not doing that anymore.

@Kat yes we worked things out! I literally even forgot about the whole cheating but the fact he started questioning me like that brought the whole cheating situation back and making me realize why am I even still staying with this man the disrespect was too much. Even if I ignored his call what I should of done is end the relationship. Now I understand why people say to not give men chances after they cheat on you.

@Sharnee Yeah what I think as well!! Honestly feels like the devil sent him to take my peace away I was so calm and at peace until I started dating this man it's been nothing but a headache but then it's not easy to leave.

@Caitlin I think so too because it was honestly so random and seems like that question had nothing but bad intentions

It’s never easy to leave but is it going to be any easier if you stay? Honestly? For your own health, wellbeing, peace & happiness?

Are you staying for finance, love.. security ... etc? Or just one thing... invested or no one out there and got start over or to old now? Just wondering..

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