MIL from hell

Long post sorry! Anyone gotten a divorce because of their MIL. I have a nail salon, I’m on mat leave so I’m only doing a few clients to keep myself ticking over with money if baby needs clothes ect as my husband pays all house bills always has, I get cash a lot for it so I asked my mother in law to send me the money and I’ll give her the cash ( I still declare it as earnings but we live in middle no where my closest bank for that account is 30 min drive in good condition’s) she’s never had a problem doing it, then other day she asked me for £30 bank transfuse and can I have cash, so a swapy like she does for me and I said I was willing but can it wait till tomorrow when my child credit goes in as I have nothing in my bank I just bought loads for baby, she was like iv just given you £50 yestuday, I said yeah my money you transfered me I spent on baby clothes last night, baby needed some more grows now it’s getting cold, and I wouldn’t dare take it out joint that’s bill money. she was outraged, “all the things I do for you and you can’t even send me £30” I said I can just in morning ( she didn’t need it till two days later anyways ) so then my husband walks in hearing her scream at me, she tells him she is always sending me money and I can’t even “pay her back £30” I said I don’t need to pay you back anything the money you “send” me is MY money iv earnt you just swap it from cash to in my bank…she still continued, my husband then send her the £30 and goes to me does my mum transfuse you money yes or no? I said yes but… “NO” he screamed in my face, “no buts” and walked of saying he was disappointed in me he pays for everything already why do I need more money. They acting like she’s giving it to me for free. It’s been a week and my husband has barley said two words to me, walks away if I bring it up to explain, has gone to his mums three times last week for dinner and even went to a family dinner without my yestudsy I didn’t even know about it 🤷🏻‍♀️ IM disappointed in HIM!

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The way he reacted in my option is ridiculous like he should hear you out at least I don’t know if this has happened in the past but if it has I would say he would continue picking his mother side rather than yours which is unfair I would say from now I would swap the money with your mum and try and use the bank to do it normally they put it in the moment you give them the cash! And I would say your are really upset with how you reacted say your mother never GIVES you money as she doesn’t give you money she swaps it which she probs herself wants the cash as older people prefer cash so she is also doing it for herself !

Talk with your mother in law🤯 ask her why she did this and does she want this to happen? If she will be rude it means thats the plan, live your life.. and they can have their own.. apply for UC even if you live together you can be separated.

You shouldn't have to...but you could always either send him a text or write it down in a letter - explain that way so he doesn't just walk off? Sounds like he is being completely unreasonable to me though 🤷🏻‍♀️

What a cow! I got furious reading that! How cheeky! Going on as if you’re getting hand outs when it’s your hard earned money!!!

So I tried to talk to him again and again he said he’s still to anger to talk about it, so I wrote him a text explaining all and then send him a clip of cctv at our front door of a client giving me cash ( with her permission) and told him when he’s ready to chose “his family” in the family he made, I’ll be at my parents. Had enough. I tried to talk it out with mother in law but she left me on read and didn’t answer phone 🤷🏻‍♀️

You've done what you can (which was more than you needed to in my opinion), the ball is in his court now 🤷🏻‍♀️ they are being very childish so just rise above it and focus on you and baby ❤️

Well the update is; iv not herd from him 🤷🏻‍♀️ thing is im so shocked I have so many questions, we ( I though) were so happy and there was no issues but obv, he’s enjoying a break from us he needed I guess, looks like I am heading for divorce

I feel so sorry for you, but I think his family supports him on this, and probably he will open his eyes then is gonna be too late..

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