Telling your friends you’re pregnant?

I do understand very well as I had the same issue a few weeks ago. I did text my friend before meeting her, by saying that I wanted to share my joy with her but that I was open to accept any initial silence or any reaction that came to her naturally, as it is indeed difficult. Keep in mind that it’s just a matter of time before they find out, and in my head waiting too long could have made it even more awkward eventually. In the end she waited a few days before replying to my message, but she did eventually and when we met it was all very positive. They will be happy for you :) and I’m sure you’ll find the right way of approaching the whole thing xx

What you’ve written here is good in my opinion! “I know we’re catching up soon and I just wanted to let you know I’m expecting! We’ve been friends for so long so even though I know you’ll be so happy for me, I know it could bring up difficult emotions for you and I didn’t want it to come as a shock in person. Happy to chat about it as much or as little as you want ❤️”

I sent a message when I knew they’d be home with their partner. I opted to message so they can react however they need to. Rather than face to face . Process it in there own time

Yes definitely don’t do it to their face ♥️ Having been told about a pregnancy to my face not long after miscarrying earlier this year, trying to pretend I was happy and not burst into tears was almost unbearable. It may sound insensitive but a long text acknowledging their feelings and maybe even how you absolutely understand if they need space for a while to digest the news in my opinion is best. You don’t have to not be excited, this is wonderful for you and you shouldn’t feel guilty at all it’s just an impossible situation. She may really want to hear all about it but if she doesn’t that’s okay too, you just don’t know (and she may also not even know) how the news will hit. By the sounds of it you’re already super aware and kind xx

Also to add, the sooner you tell her the better…another complicated feeling is finding out the news later than the ‘standard’ 12-ish weeks and after others have found out as she might feel you’ve been hiding it. It’s a rock hard place situation!

I am sorry to hear about your friend. I would advise you to Not do it face to face but by text message and refrain from being overly excited. I would go about it in this way: “So I have some news to share with you and I am afraid to be seen as inconsiderate. But we have been friends for over 20 years and we have to share in eachothers good and bad. So here goes nothing.. I am pregnant! I want you to know that me sharing my joy is not me being selfish and not taking in account your feelings. We can connect again when you feel okay to do so as I understand this might be difficult.“ Then take it from there. I think they would be glad you told them and they will support you knowing that you would have done the same thing for them. It is only natural to worry about this but at the same time you have to be happy about your blessing, maybe do not overdo it and check signs of discomfort when they are around. Congrats and good luck. x

Thanks everyone this has been so helpful, I really appreciate it. I was going to tell them at 12 weeks but they were on holiday and then I had this consultation appointment so didn’t want to tell them unnecessarily if something was wrong. I’ve only told one of our other friends as she had sent a message telling our friend when she was pregnant and was asking for some advice but is aware of the situation so won’t say anything. Going to send them a message tomorrow evening and hope for the best

You’ve been given some great advice, so I won’t repeat it, but just thought I’d say I understand your position as my closest friend had fertility issues. I’ve known her since we were 2 years old, and we’ve always done everything together. Both met our husbands in our first year at uni, got engaged and married within a few months of each other, and both started trying for a baby at a similar time. Unfortunately for her it proved to be a very long and challenging journey, and I felt guilty when it happened easily for me. I told her over text so she could process the news in her own time, but she was so happy for me as well as feeling her own emotions. Thankfully now she has her little miracle baby 🥰 hopefully that will happen for your friend in time too x

Don’t surprise someone face to face! Give them time to process it xxx

My friend said she appreciated me texting her the news rather than telling her in person so it gave her time to absorb it etc

Update- I messaged my friend this evening. She congratulated me and said that she really appreciated me sending her a message that was really thoughtful. Just wanted to thank everyone for their responses and advice, it really helped me think about the best way to tell her whilst being as sensitive as I could be ❤️