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@Sharnee thank you!!
I would not allow it, he doesn’t “know” her. How much she eats, what time, her naptimes, her likes and dislikes, how to calm her down, etc. Plus you said he got angry previously when she cried, how will he handle having her for a week with a 15 hour trip? I would be worried about shaken baby syndrome or him lashing out
I wouldn’t allow him to take the baby. Just because he fathered a child, doesn’t give him the automatic right if he hasn’t been there for your baby. I’d also worry that the baby would get distressed if you’re not there for her as she’s still so tiny and doesn’t know anyone as well as she knows you and if she was to get too distressed it’s not as if you can quickly pop over to soothe her. I also wouldn’t inconvenience myself by going with the baby. If his family want to spend time with her then they should make the trip to you
I feel u . It’s never easy to give ur baby to a BD that u don’t trust. I mean this in a good way. He’s the father he should be having time with his daughter. It’s better for ur daughter to grow up with a good relationship with her father than not. And he seems like he wants to have that. Better late than never. I know it’s not fair to u but maybe ask him to make u feel more comfortable about it. Tell him u want him to put a night camera so u can see her at night, or tell him only he can watch her etc .. whatever will easy ur mind try to have that
If you aren’t comfortable then no. He hasn’t had time to earn that trust, time to bond with baby then no. Does he know her cues/likes/dislikes/how to handle her if she gets upset and fussy which is likely the case if she’s only ever known you and then taken away from you for a week. What happens if he can’t handle it? What happens if something happens? 15hrs away and for a week is a lot for a baby who doesn’t/hasn’t known someone consistently. If you’re able to seek some legal aid so you know your rights and options but in any case I wouldn’t allow this to happen. If you have any proof of abuse or anything that makes you feel unsafe, screenshot and save it, especially if the arguments turn nasty or mean (if they aren’t already 🙃) This is your baby, you are primary carer and what you say goes. Stay strong and stick with your choices.